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You are Unique! |
You are Unique!
Without a doubt…there is nobody else on this entire planet with a population of over 6 500 000 000 people who is exactly the same as you are. Pretty cool thought huh?
Imagine a 50 carat blue diamond was found, a diamond so crystal clear and beautiful like you have never seen before. It is the only one of its kind in this world. How much would it be worth? Probably billions of dollars???
Actually, it is only worth what you and other people think it is worth. In other words, the value depends on the value we give it.If the majority thinks the diamond is worthless, then the chances are big you will also think this. If you think it is worthless, and you can convince every person you talk to that it is worthless, then many people will indeed think it is worthless.This brings me to the point of my post:
Most people I know have certain things they are not happy with about themselves, whether is be their physical appearance or their social or financial situation.Some people think they are a massive loser, that they do not deserve success, or they do not deserve to have many friends, or they think they are ugly.
Maybe these thoughts are a result of nasty remarks and bullying when you were in school, or maybe they are created by you as being the truth (while the reality is far from it). Whatever the reason for these thoughts, the fact is that you regurgitate them, play them in your head over and over, each time strengthening these false beliefs and negative thoughts.
If you bring across to other people that you think you are a loser, or have low value, why would they think otherwise? Does people labeling you for having low value or being a loser actually make it true? No, of course not! It’s only true if you accept their insults as being the truth. (For a great story read Buddah’s Wisdom)
Yesterday my power was off all day, so I could not sit on the computer and I decided to read Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz again. This is one of the most interesting books I’ve read by the way and I really recommend it!
It is about a plastic surgeon, who combined all his thoughts and experiences of his profession after 20 years, and shares with us how plastic surgery that removes all physical defects from someone and makes them look much more beautiful, can for some people completely remove their psychological issues and for some people change absolutely nothing.
I want to share with you an extract from the chapter I was reading:
“A business man was a failure at 40. He continually worried about “how things would come out”, about his own inadequacies, and whether or not he would be able to complete each business venture. Fearful and anxious, he was attempting to purchase some machinery on credit, when the man’s wife objected. She did not believe he would ever be able to pay for it. At first his hopes were dashed. But then he became indignant. Who was he to be pushed around like that? Who was he to sulk through the world , continually fearful of failure? The experience awakened “something” within him – some “new self” – and at once he saw that this woman’s remark, as well as his own opinions of himself, were an affront to this “something”. He had no money, no credit, and no “way” to accomplish what he wanted. But he found a way – and within three years was more successful than he had ever dreamed of being – not in one business,but in three”
I think it is so completely true that we let opinions of others and opinions of ourselves hold us back to what we really want to achieve. We are all capable of so much more than we are currently doing.
My advice is to accept who you are in complete fullness. Accept what you look like. Accept where you came from. Stop spending time and energy criticising yourself, and use that time and energy to explore and discover the world around you. Follow your passions and your interests. Put time and energy into changing what you are not happy with (your fitness, social or financial situation). Look outside of yourself.
Be proud to be you. Walk with pride. Don’t think negatively of yourself. You deserve success and happiness and many friends. It’s your life. Enjoy it and live it to the fullest!
Have a Rockin’ day
Diggy
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Hey, Diggy.
Great post. Comparison is the reason for so much suffering and insecurity in the world.
You said that if people think you are a loser, you shouldn’t care. I personally think it’s the other way around in a lot of cases. For instance, people will think you are a loser if you believe you are a loser yourself. Because think about it. How do you know what people are really thinking unless they say out loud, “You are a loser”? Do you assume they think you are a loser? And if you think other people are thinking that way, then YOU must think you are a loser.
My point is this: A lot of what you think other people are thinking is only a projection of what’s going on in your mind.
Heya Valerie:)
Nice to see you here! Welcome
Exactly my point also, I hope I was able to bring it across.
What I’m saying is that :
1-) If you think you are a loser, other people probably will too.
2-) If other people call you a loser, this does not make it true and you should not accept it as being truth.
If you are able to stand strong with a firm belief of your identity and coolness, then you will often find people will change their opinion of you from bad to good.
Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment:)
Understood. I totally agree.
Completely agree. Its what you are thinking about yourself is what people are thinking about you.
Great post. Keep them coming
Thanks Sunil
I will do 
I agree with Valeri. Personal beliefs can take you a long way and if you don’t believe you are special, why would anyone else?
100% spot on Stefan!
Thanks for stopping by
I am unique! Just like everybody else
I think that`s the only thing everybody has in common…that we are totally one of a kind. If you think about it, there`s not one identical thing or cell or being out there. Realizing this can help you stop comparing to other people and trying to be like someone else, it is totally pointless. No opinion matters, because no one really knows what goes on inside you, sometimes not even you.
Beautiful post Diggy
Hey Rosa!
I’ve missed seeing you around here
Thanks for the kind words!
Keep well
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Diggy, man, you’re tearing up these posts lately! :0 Great post! I like the part of the story that the guy used his wife’s remark to “awaken the giant” within him, so to speak, instead of complying and taking it like a defeated dog.
I’ll check out this book.
Have a great weekend!
Hey PAPA!
Yeah it’s amazing? Have you ever had that, like when you are learning something, and you try and try and try, and keep failing but keep trying to do this is a way that you read how it’s “supposed to be done”, and then after a while you get so tired of trying to do it this way you say “F it…who cares”
And then you just conquer it and do it like a pro.
Thanks for stopping by
Have a great weekend too!
Hey Diggy, Another great post. What a boring world this would be if “we” were all alike and not unique in our own way. Just like that blue diamond I believe that I am a great person and had always grown up with a parent who fully believed in self esteem and that one could do and be whatever you wanted to be. Also why would you want to be a follower and dress or look like someone else go for individuality!! Good job Diggy. jj
Hey JJ!
Great to hear from you!
Hope things are going better with you!!!
Thanks for stopping by miss, I’m looking forward to your next post!
Ciaociao
Yes, we are each unique in who we are. I have learned to look at others as mirroring back to me what I really think about myself.
If I attract people who are negative and surround myself with them, it is because that is how I really see myself or feel about myself. If I don’t like what they say, it is because I don’t like that part of myself.
Awareness is so important before you can change something. If I see greed in someone else, it is because there is some element of greed in myself. If I don’t like it in someone else, it is because I don’t like that same thing in myself.
Acceptance is the second step. Before I can change what I don’t like about myself, I have to accept that thing about myself. It all comes down to loving myself as I am.
Hey Patricia!
Welcome to UpgradeReality and leaving such a cool comment!
I agree totally that we attract into our lives what we feel, what our perception of the world is, that is how it becomes!
That is why it is important to think positively so you can attract into your life what you want!
It takes great belief in oneself to become all they can be like the army commercials…lol. Yet, such a cliche isn’t programmed fully into the minds of millions who dream, but who don’t take the first step.
Instead of running with a potential great idea, people become stagnant. Afraid of rejection, failure and any other psychological barriers with their conscious minds.
The tip is to make daily progress. Do something each day to further your success. It may be running 3x a week for a great physic or investing 4-5 hours a day on your business venture. The path of your taking is irrelevant, but whats important is the motivation, determination and belief, you bring to the table.
Remember, you must believe in yourself, because everything start with the UNIQUE you!
Hey Jonothan!
I welcome you to UpgradeReality!
Thanks for stopping by sir!
Exactly! You have to take action, that is what everything boils down to. Forget about the outcome and fears of rejection and failure, just do it!
Until the next time
Diggy,
Where are you from? What cause you to create such a nice blog directing people to improve their lives?
Hey Jonathan!
I live in South Africa!
I really enjoy writing and I love being able to help someone, sometimes all it takes is a helping hand or post in this case to get them to succeed so that is the goal
Thank you for the kind words!
Interesting stuff there Diggy. I noticed you mentioned Psycho Cybernetics, a book that has been sitting on my shelf unread. You just motivated me to read it this weekend. Thanks for that.
Hey Stephen!
Haha, glad I inspired you to read it, I am curious what you think of it because I thought it was an absolutely Awesome book!
I borrowed it from a friend who had also bought it but never read it!
Enjoy the weekend Stephen!
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