Whether you think you can or can’t…you are right.


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A Wishing Tree

There is a parable about a poor man walking through the woods reflecting upon his many troubles. He stopped to rest against a tree, a magical tree that would instantly grant the wishes of anyone who came in contact with it.

He realized he was thirsty and wished for a drink.

Instantly a cup of cool water was in his hand. Shocked, he looked at the water, he decided it was safe and drank it. He then realized he was hungry and wished he had something to eat. A meal appeared before him. “My wishes are being granted,” he thought in disbelief.

“Well, then I wish for a beautiful home of my own,” he said out loud. The home appeared in the meadow before him.

A huge smile crossed his face as he wished for servants to take care of the house. When they appeared he realized he had somehow been blessed with an incredible power and he wished for a beautiful, loving, intelligent woman to share his good fortune.

“Wait a minute, this is ridiculous,” said the man to the woman. “I’m not this lucky. This can’t happen to me.”

As he spoke…everything disappeared. He shook his head and said, “I knew it,” then walked away thinking about his many troubles.

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I came across this story and I knew I wanted to share it with you.

It was Henry Ford who said
“Whether you think you can or can’t…you are right.”

I’ve noticed it in many people including myself.

We feel we don’t deserve to win, to achieve success, to be happy. That somehow when things finally go right and happen the way we want them to, that it is too good to be true.

That there is always an either/or choice. Either we are wealthy and unhappy or we are happy but not wealthy.

Why can it not be both? Why do we limit ourselves and deny ourselves from the things we really want?

Have you ever had someone make you a compliment and have them tell you “wow, you’re really good at that, you should consider doing it full time or professionally” or something along the lines where they compliment a talent or skill of yours, and you reply with something like “ah, I’m not really that good, I would never make it”.

I know I’ve done this. With a lot of things I thought I couldn’t do, or didn’t deserve when I was younger. Now that I look back on that, I really wonder why I ever thought I was not good enough, or that I didn’t have the ability to do something.

You can do ANYTHING you put your mind to.

If you don’t want to do something because you really do not like it, then that is a different story, but don’t not do something because you think you can’t. You Can!

That does not mean that you will be able to do it the first or second time you do it, not at all. To become really good at something often takes hundreds of attempts. But when you fall, dust yourself off and get back up again. Do it again and again and again.

Then, when you feel you’ve failed and want to give up…don’t. You’re so close to getting it.

Keep on doing it. Find another approach, study people who have already achieved what you are aiming to achieve and see what they did, how they think and how long it took them.

Do you think Tiger Woods became a champion overnight? Or Michael Jordan? Or that Will Smith became a celebrity in a year? Or that Bill Gates built up his fortune in a month?

No…of course not. The people who are really successful have often failed hundreds of times more than anyone else, but they did not think that they were not good enough, they kept trying and it is because of this that they are successful.

The point of this post is that the next time you find yourself thinking you are not good enough, or that when you think you don’t deserve something like happiness, success, a beautiful woman or a nice car, when you think that you CAN’T…that you STOP yourself right there.

And when you stop yourself, you tell yourself…”wait a minute…who am I to say I can’t…because I can, and I do deserve it, so I’m going to do it”.

Of course, this does not apply to a stranger saying to you that you can’t jump off a building and fly, and then you think “WHAT…who is this guy to tell me I can’t” and then jump off the building to prove him wrong.

Remember the wishing tree story from above and the fact that if you think you can’t, then that is what will happen. Start thinking “I CAN”. You deserve success. You are enough.

Happy weekend guys and girls :)

Have a Rockin’ day
Diggy




  • Mo

    Hi, just found you by accident, couldn’t get that Henry Ford quote quite right, so googled it and it led me here! I guess it’s related to the idea that what you give out, you get back. So if you think you’re ugly or useless or whatever (or you were told it when you were small)you give that negativity out and it hangs over you like a cloud. So, yes, your thoughts actually become your ‘reality’. I’m off now to read about Labeling theory!! Thanks for all the thought-provoking posts.

    • Diggy

      Hey Mo!
      Thank you for leaving a comment! I love that quote too, that’s why I wrote about it :) Glad you enjoyed the articles and hope to see you around!

  • Sundar

    Hi Diggy,
    Very good post. It motivates me to work more. keep posting nice ones like this.
    Thank you.

  • Tim

    Love this post Diggy.

    Ironically I found it searching for the source of the Henry Ford quote mentioned, to inspire a friend who went online at my encouragement to find some information.

    To my surprise they went to a forum and had people CONFIRM that his project was indeed difficult (I’ve done the same project and know it’s pretty easy), instead of actually looking for the information on HOW to do it:-?

    So I replied to him with the Henry Ford quote, which led me here:-)

    I’ll add my favorite quote, i hope you like it:

    “Our greatest fear is not that we’re inadequate, our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

    Marianne Williamson

    Thanks for the great post,

    Tim

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Hey Tim!
      Glad you found Upgradereality! :)

      Yeah I have heard that quote many times, and I agree with it. Many people are scared of reaching their goals. Once they get close to it they either feel they do not deserve it or that it is too good to be true, and then somehow they sabotage their own success. Very strange psychological phenomenon.

  • ægil

    Same thing happened to me, I realized every failure is a gift if you want to keep on trying, they are only like unlockable doors to something wonderful!

  • http://www.anxiouscandy.com Faramarz – Anxious Candy

    While i totally agree with you. The thing is that it takes not only thoughts to be successful. You also need decades of hard work, determination, persistence and a whole lotta luck

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Hey Faramarz!

      Cheers for the comment! :)
      Often it helps if you are prepared to work for as long as it takes, because that way it’s not unusual for results to come much quicker than 10 or 20 years.

  • Giselle

    This is exactly what I needed to read right now. Thank you Diggy. You’re right. No one should give up. Keep trying and preserving. :)

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Hey Giselle!

      You’re totally welcome :)

      That’s the spirit!
      Enjoy the weekend!

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  • Eat Smart Age Smart

    Diggy,

    I made a typo in my previous post, so I’m resend it and maybe you can delete the last one:

    Here is it again!
    That quote from Henry Ford sits comfortably at the base of my flat screen in plain view when I’m working.
    You say: “Have you ever had someone make you a compliment and have them tell you “wow, you’re really good at that, you should consider doing it full time or professionally” or something along the lines where they compliment a talent or skill of yours, and you reply with something like “ah, I’m not really that good, I would never make it”.”
    See, I don’t feel like that at all. When someon says that, I say thank you because I know I’m good at what I do. I’ve always put my heart and soul in all of my projects, but I’m “not quite there yet” and that’s the downer.
    I feel like I work much harder than the results I bare and I’m not quite certain if it’s because I don’t know how to work yet or if it’s because I’m choosing the wrong strategies.
    That said, like Newton who tried 10,000 before he invented the lighbulb, I’m still at it and I keep keeping on.
    Some days are difficult, but I have the end goal in mind and I think that after years of “practice” (and not failures) as Valerie would say … I think I’m really (REALLY) close to having it all.
    And I don’t believe it’s one or the other. I believe you can have it all in live … as long as you know what it is that you truly want.
    This is an incredible post and I don’t regret at all stopping by and checking your blog!

    Thanks for the lesson my friend!!!

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Hey Krizia!

      Welcome to UpgradeReality and thank you so much for the kind words!

      Often it is like that though, you will work hard, for a long time, getting little or no results. This is when most people give up,because they are not getting out what they get in.

      However, it is at this point, where you are so close to achieving your goal and seeing exponential success, that is is critical to keep going and not even think about giving up! :)

      Have a wonderful day and see you next post :)

  • http://improveminduniversity.blogspot.com jonathanfigaro

    Majority of people in society think success is something which comes from working 1 hour a day for 1 week. Once they don’t see success within the millions they become frustrated, and tend to give into failure.
    People who are successful know that success is not something done over night. Its take time!

    Here are some traits need to become successful.

    1. Positive attitude
    2. Healthy body
    3. Faith
    4. Perseverance

    Working daily to create a mind state which holds these thought permanently, will lead to success with a few years.

    ” Success is a journey not a destination”

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Hey Jonothan!

      I like the quote, and the journey makes it fun. I mean, if we had instant success in everything we did, life would get a little boring wouldn’t it?

      It’s great to work for something and after much effort,hard work and tears to reach your goal and be proud of it.

      Never give up :)

  • http://exilelifestyle.com Colin Wright

    Ah, love that quote. Brilliant in its insight and concision.

    It’s good to remember that no matter how difficult something may seem, or how far out a dream might appear to be, there’s nothing standing in the way of you accomplishing it other than yourself. We can be our own best cheerleaders or critics, and though it’s important to remain open to learning from our mistakes, it’s also important to give ourselves credit when credit is due.

    This concept is actually very similar to a sociological term called ‘labeling theory,’ which essentially states that labels are so important to modern humans that if we are told that we are bad, we’ll be bad. If we are told we are good, we’ll be good. It’s a powerful thing to be able to look in the mirror, know full well that you are good, and then go on living your life and owning that label.

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Heya Colin!

      Welcome to Upgradereality and thanks for stopping by!

      Interesting, I haven’t heard of Labeling Theory before, I’m going to do some Googling :) The concept makes sense though and I think i understand the principles.

      Keep well! :)

  • Karen

    Yo Diggy!

    I love this concept. It’s so true! I have a quote hung up by my desk that says, “Most people are about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”- Abraham Lincoln

    I’m a firm believer that we all have the power in our own minds to change the world, and our own worlds. Thanks for the reminder!

    Karen

  • Rosa

    I`ve always loved that Henry Ford quote. We often forget how much power our mind has. How many times has it happened to you that when you don`t know you can`t do something and try it and totally do it? Or when people are really scared and running away from something, they jump super high walls and run at top speed and become spiderman :P
    We just have to stop thinking so much about whether we can do something or not and JUST DO IT.
    Great post Diggs :)

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Rosalina!!

      Como Estas?

      Gracias por venir por :)

      Haha! The thought of running at a wall and turning into spiderman makes me laugh, that would be pretty cool! I’d rather have Neo’s powers from the Matrix though…I am the One! :)

      Until next time :)

  • Renee

    Great article Diggy. You are so positive, it rubs off on us!

    Just want to add a bit about the compliment thing. If anyone gets a compliment, please reply with a thanks, don’t make them wish they never said it! I once said something nice to someone and they came back with ‘WHAT no, come on, You’re WAY better’ etc etc etc and explained how i was wrong – real turn off. :S Respect and believe in yourself, and others will too :)

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Renee! :)
      Howdy Ma’m!

      You are so right, that is the mature thing to do. When someone gives you a compliment, accept it by saying thank you:)
      Rejecting it is rude.

      (I am guilty of the latter sometimes but I try not to do it ) :)

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • http://www.reachourdreams.com Jen

    Hey Diggy! It did make sense although I haven’t really seen Star wars all the way through (I know, I know! ;-)).
    Great stuff! Have a great week.

  • http://www.healthmoneysuccess.com Vincent

    Hi Diggy,

    The quote by Henry Ford is one of my favorite too! Our belief will determine our potential and hence the amount of action we will take and the results we will receive. That is why if we think we can, half of the battle is won.

    Cheers,
    Vincent

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Hey Vincent!
      Whatsup :)

      Thanks for leaving a comment!
      Keep well buddy! :)

  • http://www.thehappyself.com Dayne | TheHappySelf.com

    When we can combine…

    Desire + Fearless Thinking + Action
    + Persistence

    …we can truly accomplish anything we want.

    The biggest thing is overcoming that voice inside that says we can not do something. When we realize those are just thoughts, and thoughts only, we can see them as such and move beyond them. Success awaits shortly thereafter.

    Fantastic post Diggy!

    Dayne

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Hey Dayne!

      That’s the truth :)

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • John Bardos – JetSetCitizen

    I love to see live concerts, plays and musicals just because I get to see the performers in person.

    It is easy to find excuses and tell ourselves why we can’t do things, but somehow seeing a real person, with real problems up there helps me realize that anything is possible.

    Even the queen of England needs to eat and use the toilet. She has to trim her nails and blow her nose like everyone else in the world.

    Every successful person is exactly that, a person. If they can do it, so can you!

    • http://www.upgradereality.com Diggy – Upgradereality.com

      Heya John!

      Haha, yes you are right. Everyone is human so theoretically there is no reason to think you are not good enough to do something.

      Anyone else who has done it, you too, with enough practice and hard work can get at least close.

      Never give up :)

  • http://www.reachourdreams.com Jen

    Great post Diggy! :-)
    One thing I really like in your posts is that reminder that to keep going! It can be easy to be disheartened about our goals, but as you say successful people have often failed hundreds of times.
    Have a great weekend.
    Jen

    • http://www.upgradereality.com Diggy – Upgradereality.com

      Ola Jen!

      Thanks for the kind words:) It’s important to keep those dukes up and keep going, even when your goal seems lightyears away. You might just find a black hole and timewarp through it and appear in front of your goal, skipping the “appeared distance”.

      Haha, sorry for the star wars talk :)
      Hope the metaphor makes sense!

      Have an awesome day !

  • Dave Witwicki

    Great post Diggy! Good timing too. I’ve been struggling with “I can’t” thoughts lately and you’ve reminded me that it’s my choice as to whether I can or can’t. Just need to keep working at it and believe that I can!

    • http://www.upgradereality.com Diggy – Upgradereality.com

      Hey there Dave!

      Awesome! Thank you for stopping by :)

      Glad that I can give you some inspiration to keep the I CAN mindset. I know it can be hard sometimes, and then all we need is a little push in the right direction and everything works out okay.

      Keep those dukes up! :)

  • http://www.ratracetrap.com/ Stephen – Rat Race Trap

    Hey Diggy. I love the Henry Ford quote. Part of the problem is that people think they can and then they try and it doesn’t work so then they think they can’t.

    Maybe the traditional way didn’t work so you have to get creative and figure out a way that will work. Thomas Edison had to try 10,000 ways that failed before he found the way that worked to create an electric light bulb.

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Howdy Stephen ! :)

      Yep you are right, people often give up at initial resistance or not getting it, and then their mind sets to “impossible” and they give up.

      I remember reading the story about the guy that created the vaccuum cleaner, he spent more than 5 years and hundreds of prototypes building something nobody believed in and that everyone called him crazy for. He didn’t give up and look at the world now, every household has a vaccuum cleaner!

      Thanks for stopping by :)

  • http://fateiscallingyou.blogspot.com Felix Noir

    Great evaluation of the story and the quote. Keep up the good work as always! =)

    • http://www.upgradereality.com Diggy – Upgradereality.com

      Heya Felix!
      Thanks for the compliment and motivation!

      Have a great weekend!

  • http://personalstandards.daliborruzic.com/ Dalibor Ružić

    I once chat with a girl for days and it was good, then I ask her for picture, and she said something like: “Oh no, it was good and now will end.”

    And she was right. :)

    Today when I think about that I think she was not bad looking girl. She was average girl with nice personality. But she said she was ugly so I believe her. :)

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Heya Dalibor!

      Welcome to Upgradereality! Good to see you here!

      Yes, what people tell us we believe, and what we tell ourselves we believe also :)

      Until next time!
      Keep well!

  • http://www.cheerupnation.com papa

    Awesome!

    Here, in America, the overnight success story is sold so hard, I think people actually set their alarm clocks early and are dissapointed when they wake up at 5am tired…but not successful.

    Takes work, peoples!

    Great post, Diggy, and my eagle eyes spotted the dude at the base of the tree. He’s rocking out the Crocodile Dundee hat, I like!

    Have a great weekend!

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Hey Brian :)

      You are so right.
      That’s why it is so important to realise that it takes continuous effort to succeed!

      Glad you spotted the dude at the bottom of the massive tree :)

      Cheers for the comment! :)

  • http://valeriemondesir.wordpress.com/ Valerie M

    Nice post, Diggy. Ditto on the overnight successes. We’re all so quick to give up on something, labeling it as too good to be true. Nothing is too good to be true!

    Hope you have a good weekend as well…

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Heya Valerie:)

      Thanks for the kind words miss!

      Until next time!
      Keep Fabulous!
      Diggy

  • Oscar – freestyle mind

    Hey Diggy. Great post! You are absolutely right! I want to share a quote from brian tracy: “Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true. “

    • Diggy – UpgradeReality.com

      Heya Oscar:)

      Ooh, yeah nice quote, I like it:)

      Thanks for dropping in and leaving the first comment!

      Have a fabulous weekend Mr!