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Top Ten Myths Of Self Improvement

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Myth 1- You Bloom Where You Are Planted

It is a common belief that just because you are born into a certain culture, in a certain country, in a certain body and into a certain lifestyle that you have to live that way for the rest of your life.

This is in fact very far from the truth. How and where you are born does not mean that you need to stay that way and accept it for being your destiny. Life is what you make of it and as long as you are healthy and free, anything is possible.




Myth 2- Self Improvement Means Making Big Change

Some people think that self improvement means going from total failure to overnight success.

This kind of belief is very deterring to making any changes to get better in areas of your life. That jump in success and skill is way too big and in reality is hardly ever happens. Self improvement starts by making tiny little changes, taking it step-by-step and day by day. You may not even notice any visible results for weeks, but over time your efforts will reward you with the kind of big change that you wanted right from the start.




Myth 3- We Must Spend Fortunes On Self Help Material

Many people think that self help is very expensive because you need to buy all sorts of books, videos, courses and seminars.

To get better at something can be very cheap. If you are willing to do the research and do enough digging, it is amazing how many free resources there are for any area that you want to improve in. If you do not have a lot of money to spend to get better at something, seach the internet, go to your local library or find a mentor. One of the best ways to learn is to find someone who is already successful at what you want to achieve. If you cannot pay them in currency, maybe you can compensate them in some other form and repay them by doing something else for them.




Myth 4- Self Improvement Is for Losers

It is a common myth that if you need self help that there is something wrong with you. Trying to improve yourself by reading and studying and doing makes you a loser.

The total opposite is true. By knowing and admitting your weakness, and by actively setting out to do something about them, you are courageous and deserve respect. It is usually the people who believe this myth who end up living their lives below par.




Myth 5 – “I’ve Tried Self Improvement, It Doesn’t Work!”

It is commonly believed that by reading a few self help books and listening to a few ‘gurus’ that all your problems will instantly go away and you will become a champion at any area you have chosen to improve upon.

This could not be more false. Self improvement is hard work. It often requires weeks, months or years to really get better in an area of your choice. That being said, with hard work, dedication and persistance, it is possible to improve any area in your life with dramatic results. Just be prepared to be in it for the long haul. Self improvement is a constant journey of setting course for your goals and adjusting yoruself when you deviate off course.




Myth 6- Self Improvement Is All Just About Postive Thinking

Just by thinking positively and visualizing where you want to be, you will automatically become much better at things over time.

Positive thinking definitely a part of self improvement. For some people it is a big component and for others it is less important. However, you do not get incredible results just by thinking about making the improvements. You need to take action and make the change happen. Often you will make mistakes, you will fail, you will stumble and fall. It is up to you to keep going and not give up, to get up when you fall and dust yourself off. Learn from your mistakes and remember that a failure is not a failure until you give up trying completely.




Myth 7 – The Motivation Does Not Last

Certain people believe that self improvement is pointless because it is only a temporary solution. Any changes brought about by self help resources eventually revert back to their former self.

At times it can be hard to keep motivated. Some of us are not self-motivated and getting temporarily motivated by something or someone else is the first step towards becoming self-motivated. Sometimes that is exactly the nudge we need to get ourselves into action. The point of self improvement is to change our bad habits or adopt new ones. A habit is automatic, so once we create it, it is there to stay. For good.




Myth 8- Self Improvement Does Not Work For Everybody

Some people believe that self improvement is only possible for a certain number of people and it is not something that is going to work for them at all.

Similarly to myth 5, myth 8 is a self-limiting belief that people have. It is an excuse that our Lizzard brains (read Linchpin – Seth Godin) have created in order for us to stay in our comfort zone and not venture into the unknown by attempting to get better at certain things. Anybody can get better at anything. Some people may take longer and may find it harder, but with determination and enough practice, anybody can get better.




Myth 9- Medication Is The Only Solution For Many Psychological & Physical Problems

It is commonly believed that doctors and experts know exactly how to cure many psychological and physical problems and that the medication they often prescribe is the only solution to these problems we have.

Medication usually only treats the sypmtoms and not the cause of the problem. Besides that, most medication is unnatural and bad for the body. Alternative healing methods like accupuncture and EFT have shown incredible results in treating both physical and psychological problems without the use of any medication whatsoever. (*Note: I am not a doctor and this is not meant as a cure for a problem you may have. If you are seriously ill, don’t hesitate to see a doctor. My view against most medication is just how I personally want to live my life because I truly believe that most of it is bad for the body, and when I can prevent it I will rather opt for a natural solution through rest, diet or EFT).




Myth 10 – Self Improvement Is Boring

There are people who believe self improvement is boring. That you have to read long books with scientific studies, or listen to so-called gurus who preach about things they do not even apply in their own lives.

Self improvement is what you make of it. Personally I think that it is loads of fun. Researching things and finding ways to get better at something. Applying new habits to get more success. Connecting with like-minded people or finding mentors. There is so much to learn and the chances are big that some very interesting opportunities will come your way as you embark on your journey of improving certain areas of your life.



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  • http://attractrelationshipsnow.com Ben Weston

    Hey Diggy,

    How are you doin?

    I’m going to have to keep some of these in mind the next time I feel even remotely self conscious when I say I write about personal development. Many people think that the self-improvement field is just about clicking your heels twice and making a wish.

    Thanks for throwing this out there!

    • Diggy

      Hey Ben,
      I’m gooood! How are you?

  • http://www.campusbyte.com Jay Willingham – CampusByte

    Hey Diggy,

    I’ve believed many of these myths before. Not until I took a close look at my life and decided to turn it around did I truly understand what self improvement had to offer.

    This is a great guide for people who are interested in improving their life’s but haven’t totally committed yet.

    Great Post, keep em coming!
    .-= Jay Willingham – CampusByte´s last blog ..Free iPads: No More Textbooks? =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Jay,

      Glad you enjoyed the post! I also believed many of these myths a few years ago, I’ve learnt otherwise.

  • http://www.timelessinformation.com Armen Shirvanian

    Hi Diggy.

    Working on weaknesses sure does not make one a loser. I think it is human nature to attack people when they are somewhat vulnerable, so that is why comments of that type will show up in the small period of time before the self improver improves.

    You are right about medication. It gets a better reputation than it should.

    #5 is valid, and reminds me of other material that I have heard about other subjects. Things have to be given a chance before they can be disqualified.
    .-= Armen Shirvanian´s last blog ..Building Better Relationships eBook By Mike King =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Armen,

      Medication is horrible. Often it does not heal what it should and only poisons the body more than it should. In extreme cases I favor it but otherwise I try to avoid it as much as possible :)

      • ahmed

        Yeah ,medications deal with symptoms ,but this is because you go to the doctor when only you feel a symptom .But there are many medical technologies that can predict A physical disease [using DNA technology and Genome analysis etc..] .But when speaking about psychology ,attitudes,thinking and … etc medicine fails and self improvement is the best approach.

  • http://SourcesOfInsight.com J.D. Meier

    Nice rundown of the mtyhos and I like how you phrased, “you bloom where you are planted.”

    One of the keys for me is knowing that you can improve whatever you point your time, energy, anhd focus at … whether it’s personal development, professional development, or whatever.

    Two things that really helped me get clarity here are:
    1. Motivation, skills, and feedback. This simple frame helps me identify whether I need to work on motivation, improving techniques, or improving the feedback loop for better results (such as a better coach or mentor)
    2. Hot Spots for life (mind, body, emotions, career, financial, relationshipos, and fun). This simple frame helps me make sure I balance my investments and get the ROI. I also look for the best techniques in these buckets (for example, I can master my mind with NLP or work on emotional intelligence to improve emotions … etc.)
    .-= J.D. Meier´s last blog ..The 8 Steps to Wealth =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey JD

      Thanks for your awesome comments lately! I really appreciate it!

  • http://www.dreaminthelife.com Karen

    Hey Diggy,

    Good stuff! I love #6… so true, and so over said that positive thinking will get you every where. It’s a good start, but definitley not everything.

    • Diggy

      Karen!

      Long time miss! How is everything going? :)

  • http://www.theviablealternative.com Ike Love – The Viable Alternative

    I especially dig (no pun intended) your points #2 and #9. I’ve found that in my own self improvement path, while I did have a couple of big insights/revelations that shifted my perception of the world in a big way, thus changing my course in life, for the most part, my growth has been incremental. A little change consistently goes a long way over a certain amount of time.

    I think it’s also sad that Western society has become a “quick-fix” society where a person just wants to take a pill rather than dive in and confront his/her issues. A good many times (excluding medical issues), taking a pill indicates a refusal to take responsibility over one’s own issues.
    .-= Ike Love – The Viable Alternative´s last blog ..Why You’re Getting Absolutely NOWHERE in Your Self Improvement Path – Part 2 =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Ike!

      I agree totally. Sometimes the smallest realisations or changes can have the biggest impact on your life. Everything is indeed becoming faster, more automated and less personal. There is no quick fix, and most quick fixes result in costing more in the long run (time or money).

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • http://growthandwisdom.com SUMIT

    I have long been looking for a post that explains true nature of self-improvement, and I’m really very glad to say that my search finally ends here. I have learnt these nuggets the hard way, after going through a lots of self-help literature and not getting anything of true value. I realized later, the fault was not in those literature but in my way of looking at it, in my perspective towards self-improvement. I would recommend anyone who has self-improvement as a part of his or her goal to benefit from this awesome article. I am also glad to have discovered your blog, and I am convinced that I could find a great deal of value here.

    Regards,
    Sumit.
    .-= SUMIT´s last blog ..How to make most effective use of time- Principles of effective time management. =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Sumit!

      Thanks for the kind words :) It is indeed a long journey, and everyone needs to walk their own path. However, a few words of guidance from someone who has already done what you are wanting to do can make a massive difference to how quickly you get to where you want to be.

  • http://www.getinthehotspot.com/ Annabel Candy, Get In the Hot Spot

    I like number 4. I think there is a lot of negativity around it and the sense that self improvement’s for broken people who need fixing. From my experience on my own blog most of the readers are already adventurous and thoughtful people who want to make the life the best it can be. Definitely not losers or oddballs. Thanks for busting this myth:)
    .-= Annabel Candy, Get In the Hot Spot´s last blog ..Blogging Advice Exclusive: How One Small Blogger Got Advice From Eight Top Bloggers =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Annabel!

      Number 4 seems to be a favorite. I’m happy you enjoyed the article!

      Cheers for stopping by!

  • http://www.yourlifeamp.com Jason

    Myth 4 is a major impediment for many people’s progress within the arena of Personal Development. I know I believed this myth for a long time.

    Unfortunately, words like ‘personal development’ and ‘self-improvement’ are triggers for most people that set off warning bells and images of losers in their minds.

    I think that in order to reach a wider audience and show more people the benefits of improving one’s self, we might have to shy away from using these trigger words.

    Just my thoughts.
    .-= Jason´s last blog ..Should You Jump Out Of A Plane? =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Jason

      Yeah it’s sad that so many people have come to believe that self improvement is for losers or geeks. Hopefully I can change their minds, one by one :)

      have an awesome day!

  • http://RelativeStrengthAdvantage.com Yavor

    Myth4 is a big one man.

    As for Myth 6 – The movie The Secret is to blame – with their thoughts become things message. In reality you need to DO something, otherwise why would anything change :)
    .-= Yavor´s last blog ..Full Contact Twist For Samurai Abs Of Steel =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Yavor!

      Haha, yeah The Secret is massively to blame for number 6 :)

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • lifeisbeautiful03

    that was a wonderful post…I think we all require self improvement …its something which we have to do constantly.
    My favorite points from the above post are

    -Myth 2- Self Improvement Means Making Big Change

    -Myth 6- Self Improvement Is All Just About Positive Thinking

    enjoyed reading your post. good work!

    • Diggy

      Hey :)

      Thank you for the kind words. I’m happy to hear that you enjoyed the post!

  • http://www.thewaythatyouwander.com Nate

    Great stuff. My favorite one here is #2. Little changes, even if they seem amazingly small at first can develop into huge changes. When I first started trying to improve myself about 2 years ago it started with almost unnoticeable changes. It’s amazing how much it has taken on a snowball effect to get me where I am today. So Diggy, awesome stuff as usual, man. Hope you’re having a great day.
    .-= Nate´s last blog ..look up =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Nate,

      I’m doing good thanks! How are you doing on that side of the world?

      I have had the same thing, it starts with something small, and over time that one small thing results in a massive shift in the way that I do pretty much everything. It’s rather amazing!

  • http://www.theskooloflife.com Srinivas Rao

    Diggy,

    I’m really glad you wrote this post since I’m in the process of working on my post entitled “Why personal development isn’t working for you” and you’ve given tons of good ideas in this one that will inspire me. I”ll definitely link to this post for my article. You’ve done a great job breaking down many common myths on self help. I love that you brought up the notion of day by day small chunks of unnoticeable improvements that occur. Most people will often give up before they see progress because they don’t see progress instantly. AS far as being for losers, I think anybody who is ready to take control of their life and wanting to make a change is a winner. I would venture to say I was a much bigger loser before I got into all of this, and I’m a much happier, healthier person as a result of self help.

    I think people need to take self help programs and actually work on them rather than listen once and expect an instant result. IT would be nice if we just could program our brains that quickly, but rewiring bad programming takes time, but the end result is worth it.
    .-= Srinivas Rao´s last blog ..Why Nobody Can Tell You What the Right Path Is =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Srinivas!

      I’m happy to hear that I gave you some inspiration! There are so many aspects to self improvement and personal development and I think that is what can make is frightening to newcomers. The truth is that it is not as difficult as it sounds, yet at the same time it is a lot of work to get really good at something. All you need to do is start with the first action to improve and take it day by day without giving up.

      Have an awesome day!

  • http://experimentsinpassiveincome.com Moon Hussain

    “It is a common belief that just because you are born into a certain culture, in a certain country, in a certain body and into a certain lifestyle that you have to live that way for the rest of your life.” You had me right there. I’ve done everything I can to shatter expectations. I won’t get into it.. but if I can do this, then anyone can.
    .-= Moon Hussain´s last blog ..A Conversation That I Will Remember For the Rest of My Life =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Moon,

      Awesome, thanks for the motivation! You sound like a very centered person who knows what they want from life. I think a lot of people can learn from you :)

  • JB King

    I’m not sure that #8 is really a Myth. If there are those without the determination and practice to get through it, it may be true for a small select percentage of the population. I do get the general idea that anyone can do anything but there is the requirement of determination and practice to getting it to work.

    The first point is probably the one that resonates with me the most as I’ve moved around a bit in my life and each place seems to bring out a different side to me.

    One other myth that I’d add is this:

    Self-help is simple and easy.

    It so isn’t, but then most of the best things in life requires some work and sacrifice, no?

    • Diggy

      Hey JB!

      Everything does indeed take a lot of persistance. That is why it is so important to never give up with anything you do because anything that is worth doing or any form of big success takes a lot of hard work and effort and a lot of time.

      Nice addition, it is indeed not always easy. Sometimes it can be the hardest thing you’ve done. But…if you persist and eventually reach your goal, the reward is oh so sweet because you worked very hard for it.

      Cheers!

  • http://joshuahitchcock.wordpress.com Joshua @ H2BA

    Myth 6 ismy favourite – positive thinking is only part of the equation – you can believe in yourself but it ain’t gonna amount to anything if you do not take action.
    .-= Joshua @ H2BA´s last blog ..Endurance =-.

    • Diggy

      Hey Joshua

      So true :) Thanks for leaving a comment!

  • http://www.epicself.com Amber

    I find self improvement so debilitating sometimes! As a blogger who writes and promotes epic living it’s hard to say that,but the truth is sometimes in all our yearning to be the best we become perfectionist who trap ourselves in a box of self defined labels. I need to be this in order to be happy, successful, important…and what have you. Nice thoughts here Diggy

    • Diggy

      Hey Amber!

      Thanks for stopping by :) The label of self improvement is a big one and sometimes makes things sound too serious or too official. I think you have something when you say that self improvement is being able to be happy. Happiness, love and health are after all the most important things in life!

  • http://positivelypresent.com Positively Present

    Great post, Diggy! Just retweeted it because I really think a lot of people would love to read this one. Thanks for this — it was definitely a great read.

    • Diggy

      Dani! :)

      Thank you! I’m glad that you enjoyed it!

  • http://vanessajezamine.blogspot.com Vanessa

    I’m glad I came across this! Culture and religion has been a hurdle in self improvement. But sometimes changing would make a good person better! (or d best!) The positiveness if used in the right place, can be extremely motivating and handy to ones self.

    Sometimes, I discover new things in myself that I didn’t know I was capable of! =D

    NICE! Keep it up!

    • Diggy

      Hey Vanessa!

      Ooh, thanks for the kind words! I am happy to hear that you enjoyed the article!
      Have an awesome day!
      D

  • http://www.reachourdreams.com Jen

    Great points Diggy. There are so many preconceptions about personal development … it’s nice to see this addressed. I think some of these stem from the line of thinking that you don’t have to put the work in to get results i.e. buying the right product will make life perfect overnight or if I think positively everything will be great. That’s not real life. Personal development takes elbow grease but is so rewarding when approached in a healthy way.

    • Diggy

      Hey Jen!

      Thanks for stopping by :)
      Yeah there is no easy way or quick-fix. Getting good at something or even getting better at something takes hard work and a lot of time.

  • http://www.wanderingearl.com Earl

    Hey Diggy – I connected with myth #2 here, as I used to fall into this category. But after a cousin of mine convinced me to participate in a simple meditation retreat, and I discovered that ten minutes a day of meditation had a huge (and completely positive) effect on my life, I realized that self-improvement was actually for everyone.

    And with myth #9, I tend to cringe every time I hear someone mention the need to rely strictly on medication as the first and only response to their ailments.
    .-= Earl´s last blog ..How To Fund Your Travels With Creativity =-.

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