This Is What It’s Like being A Hot Girl

I’m actually really pretty and it’s annoying when I can’t even walk around by myself in downtown without a whole bunch of guys (mostly between the ages of late 302 and 50s and I’m 20 years old) walking up to me and basically saying what all these messages say. I once had a guy follow me 6 blocks just being stupid telling me how he would love to “get to know” me and how I have such gorgeous lips and a great ass. I got creeped out and reported him to the police. And that was just one situation out of tons.
So I think this experiment is a sadly accurate experiment about how a good number of men act whenever they see a hot girl around.

I believe this is a vary accurate experiment actually. In a world where Facebook is at your finger tips literally, and online dating is so “normal” it just goes to show how sickening men can be, and even sometimes women. I am a 17 year old girl, My Italian-Brazilian-English culture makes me “well above average” in the physical appearance area, but I am also valid Victorian in school. I feel that no matter who the guy is with social media all the responses these days are “Facebook me” so although the not so confident guys will make those comments, so do the oh so sexy jocks. It really is a matter of chance, and my fiance and I are proof. He was in fact one of those idiots who make the “lets have sex” comments. In fact, I still have the chat log in which his exact words were “nice rak, r thy rl?” we started dating 2 weeks later and have never been closer. We have common interest in sports and writing. I’m still happily a virgin he is not. And he has been waiting for 3 1/2 years now. So in all honesty, this experiment is vary accurate, you just have to be that girl willing to look past those comments and find something WORTH examining. For me, it was the fact that he grew up in the ghetto and had a long aggressive past, as I am one all for community service especially in the projects. So like I said, its pure luck, and yes turn down MOST if not all those guys, but stay open minded because you never know, one those guys could be your prince charming you just may not know it yet.

to be honest many hot girls are shallow. and their looks fade in their mid 20s. by 28 most hot girls become needy because they never took a chance on a decent guy who wasn’t “hot”. As their looks (the one thing that defined them) are almost gone they become needy and desperate. While guys at that age stop really caring about women because they either have one they love or are just concerned about their careers and have no time for games or “little defenses” girls put up.

Yes, sad but true. I hope to educate the male species with this post of mine. Maybe it’ll help make the world a less creepier place

I see one major problem with this experiment: it was done via online service. Hitting on a random hot chick online is something creeps with no confidence do. They don’t want to be held responsible for their actions so they do it within the safe confines of the internet. In reality hot chicks are hard to approach which means that only confident men(the kind women like) end up chatting them up.

I happen to think it’s a game of chance. Pure chance. If you’re a guy who approaches a girl once a month, you stand a very low chance of ever getting remotely close to what you want. You need to approach women as often as they get approached. I think the whole ‘quality’ men idea is only so that some can make tons of money from others’ suffering. Remember: Competition is the domain of males.

Hmmmm… I think this is a really great article, actually
I’m 16 and I suppose I’m attractive and nice and stuff and from school I don’t actually get that many weird comments or questions but I frequently get these random friend request with messages similar to the ones you showed and you’re right, it is super annoying. I never actually even consider reading those messages or adding the person. Mainly because they are some stranger and could be a freaky pervert for all I know. Plus I’d rather make friends by using my personality rather then my boobs, butt, and belly. Mind you, that picture of the girl is kind of pushing it. She is in a way throwing herself out there and usually only the girls that are ‘needy’ themselves put those kind of pictures up. Or if they are just sluts. Which is true, there are some people who’d just sleep with anyone. I myself am personally nice to anyone who makes a good first impression, who seems nice themselves, or treats me with respect. If someone rights me a message like “Hey, your such a hotties, love your body. What do you do in your free time? Maybe we can hang out sometimes… ” Or something like that, I personally feel offended and reply with a crude, sarcastic remark or not at all. The other day on fb I commented on a photo of the Abercrombie & Fitch site on fb and 4 guys replied to my comment even thought it was just an ‘Oh thats a really nice picture’ type of comment and not anything suggestive. Anyways, 3 of them declared their ‘love’ for me which I think is pathetic and I told them that too. If someone is that straightforward then I will be too and they can damn right listen to what I have to say if they have the nerve to tell me they love me without knowing me or saying I’m beautiful or sexy after seeing one picture.
BUT some girls do also take advantage of boys like that and ask them those kinds of things, it just doesn’t happen as often because girls aren’t as straightforward and also in our culture its more typical for a guy to make the first move. But regardless the majority of girls think like that when seeing a really hot pic of a guy, lol
But I definitely think some guys just push it and its not pleasant.

Hahaha! I cringe at my fellow species! On facebook I found a very nice photo of Kate Beckinsale and put it on my profile picture just to show my appreciation of her beauty and I was BOMBARDED by loser men saying the same stuff as above. They assumed she was a reachable girl, even though she’s a famous actress.

In their haste they failed to see-my name “Anthony” as the profile name!

I have my Skype account set to Do Not Disturb and yet I have received several stranger contacts, all basically the same:

“Hi, I’m divorced with one kid who lives with it’s mother. Let’s talk.”

Creepy. I delete them always.

I sell my art online, and one guy in an African country saw my pic, and contacted me like I was for sale, asking for a full body shot so he could “get a look at me.” I replied that my paintings are available, and if he had any questions…
He apologized, but a waste of time for us both.

What bothers me about men is when they behave like only what they want matters. The sad thing is that those types might find someone to go along with them.

This is hilarious! When I was single, I would crack up my snobby cute girlfriends when we would go out to nightclubs by finding the geekiest, lonliest looking guy there, and buy him a drink. I’d then hang out and dance with him all night. It guaranteed me an intellectual and stimulating conversation, while keeping away all the saps that thought they were cool. Oh, and the geeky guy was grateful for the company!
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Hey Diggy,

THANK YOU! It’s about time men started to understand what it is like to be a girl in the world. Every time you walk out into the world (real or virtual), you are bombarded by men making all kinds of propositions. And the saddest part is, most of the time they all sound the same. THIS is why an original attempt, and the act of being real, is what captures a girl’s attention.

I have long suspected that the reason women respond to men with status isn’t so much about the status, but the fact that it gives a clue that perhaps there is substance to him. How else can we determine that, when there are so many men coming at us, with so many lame lines? A man with status is a signifier: this man has his focus on something other than JUST sex (though we know perhaps he has sought status just to be more appealing…but we hope it is more). Status indicates he may have levels of self-discipline, self-esteem, self-respect, and understands the concept of looking toward the future, planning his life, DESIGNING his life.

Men assume it is just ‘status’ we want. No, more often than not, it is that we are seeking someone who has it going on….who has a real life, who is creating a life of substance (not stuff, per se, but something that indicates he wants something other than to just bed us).

Yes, the signifier isn’t always accurate. but…how else can women sort through the endless propositions hurled at us each time we have the nerve to walk out in public? You experienced it for a brief amount of time online – imagine living with that every day of your life? When you just want to run an errand, go visit friends, or go out to the store? No matter where you go, there is ALWAYS SOME GUY, waiting to hurl some DUMB comment at you. And more often than not, there are the inevitable ones who want to take it a step further, brushing up against you in the subway, or worse.

Are we defensive? Yup. Do we desperately look for signifiers, qualifiers, to help us sort through the endless stream of men who approach us? Yup. Does the common signifier of ‘men with status’ look selfish or opportunistic? Yes it does. But it is always a reflection of the caliber of the girl, or of her morals/values? NO!!! More often than not, the girl is not a ‘gold-digger’, but a girl who is just lost and confused trying to navigate her way through the world, and desperately trying to figure out how to sort through all the flotsam floating by as she moves through the world.

Thank you for this post. It is much needed.

I would like to say that most men end up coming around but it is too late.

So if I could leave the men with any advice it is this….. Be a nice guy and you truly will end up with the hot girl. It might take a couple tries, but there are MANY women who have been treated badly by their ex, and they are looking for Mr. Right….

You don’t have to give away your ego, just be a gentleman.

Diggy, Great post man. It is pretty unbelievable to see so many people acting like that. And this was only via email. Imagine how many looks and cat calls she gets while she is walking down the street! Thats what I would like to see next. Find a girl, put her in a bikini and follow her as she walks around town. I bet it would be a scarier version of what you already witnessed…

Lol Diggy, really enjoyed reading that post. A very interesting look into the crap good looking women have to put up with on a daily basis, I will definitely remember this one.

Now just remember to delete the account, wouldn’t want to you get lost into pretending to be a lady too much. One could get very confused lol.

Great post, made me laugh.

Thanks for this article. It’s actually true. Although I don’t perceive to be a hot gorgeous girl I do get some messages like these and end up deleting all of the messages. Not one stood out, since they were all the same.

Haha… Yeah, it does suck being an attractive girl. (Sorry, I don’t really like the term “hot”)

Thank you for this! It’s good to know that not all hope is lost in the male species. A lot of times I come off as a bitch because of the way men approach me (not saying I’m hot or anything, haha) and it makes me look arrogant, but the truth is it actually lowers my self esteem. Whenever a guy is clearly only trying to get in my pants I always wonder if that’s all that men see about me. I ask myself if who I am as a person isn’t good enough, if I seem to come off as the type of woman that’d be okay with being an object?

Men really should take a lesson from this. There’s so much more to a woman than just a face. Everyone is attractive in their own way and should be regarded with a potentially wonderful personality instead of an easy shag or some sort of fantasy fulfillment.

Again, thank you :]

reading books to understand women. isnt that kinda missing the whole point. if all the women were the same then that book would do you good. there is also good reasoning which tends to work for men only. if somebody finds a girl sexy is it not the point of showing it truly and honestly that which is preferred by the ladies. women understand asshole the other kind scares them off. lol

Hey Diana!
Thank you for you kind words:)

Mike,
Thank you for your comment too.
I think however,you are missing the point of my post. There is NOTHING wrong with wanting to be with a beautiful woman, all I’m attacking is the way most guys go bout it.
Most woman want a real man, not some needy clingy wimpy guy. A real man is confident,humble,ambitious,passionate and original. One of the best books I have ever read that explains what a real man is, is called “The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida, its featured in the sidebar and on the recommended page of this blog, I suggest to get yourself a copy and you will realise what I’m saying in this post.
All the best
Diggy

well we cant help it, ladies tend to be attracted by status and men are attracted by beauty. it is obvious biology. well what if i said lets fuck.. i am the president of Oil. that will come over as very rude but i would still own a bank hence you will fantasize about my money and you realize how many other women would want that, biologically you cant help it. .the great Nietzsche went mad trying understand women , at one time he was asked why he always whispered to horses; he replied i understand the horses. so your beauty well fade away but i well still own a bank. i have idea for next time post your college scores with a sexy picture and see who is really interested.

Thank you for posting this. I wouldn’t consider myself a movie-quality gorgeous woman, but I’m reasonably attractive and when I had actual pictures of me up on a blogging site, I would get messages like that all the time from desperate, pathetic men all around the world. I never even bothered replying to any of them and eventually I got so sick of getting these messages, more than 20 of them per day, that I changed my profile picture to a 4th-grade quality picture I made in Paint. I started being interested in my boyfriend because he just acted like himself and didn’t make any wussy/desperate remarks like the ones displayed in this post.

To all the men out there – seriously. If you want a nice girl, be a nice guy. Beauty queens or not, we women respect men who respect US — and themselves. If you can show us that there is more to you than your “friend,” you’ll do better with us than you can ever imagine.