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THIS IS WHAT ITS LIKE BEING A HOT GIRL… |
The difference between men and women is pretty big and being a guy you are mostly the predator:)
I’ve never seen it from a girls perspective and decided to set up an experiment,
I made an account on facebook with pictures of a really good looking girl, and filled in some interests, I must have had close to 50 random guys adding me and sending messages to this account, of course them thinking its the gorgeous girl in the display picture!
Below Im going to post the emails that were sent:…
- HEy u! can u maybe send me ur number plz???
- im sorry to ask but wasiu in london about 8yrs ago and do u know jackie and benj?
xxx - hey hey.. how u doing =) xx
- Halo there. How are you and where you from ?
- HI. , you are a real good tease!
- hi
you seem like some one i would really like to get to know better
where in south africa are you from?
or rather what city are you in? - Hi it is Chris. I have no idea why I mailed you. Sorry!
- You are Stunning! Where do you live?
- dAMN, YA SUPA HOT
- oh my you r real sexy ,,,mmmmm yummy
- wow…ur bod is absolutly STUNNING and amazing..damn ur like a sex g0ddess!
- u r very sexy, wana kiss ur luscious lipz
- where in SA are you from
i must say you are very attractive - u are really a vision of true beauty and your naughty smile. . . sexy any way just thought id say hey maybe chat sometime if u keen
- Hey how r u beautiful?
- Hi
How is your day so far?
I am a very spontaneous guy that is not shy and very direct
I would love to chat with you and get to know you better
Who knows what might happen in the future………..I might just be the one you are looking for.Do you like being spoiled………
What do you like doing for fun and adventure in your spare time? - hey , u r beautiful n sexy gal, wana be friends
- lets hav sex i would love to
- Beauty has never been so Devine , What do you do to keep yourself busy ……
Without any strings attached , whats your hobbies and interests….. - Hey gorgeous
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I think you get the point by now…I could continue posting more of these kind of messages but Im frustrated by these guys already so Im stopping !
You know…I never realised that girls have to put up with this kind of nonsense!
Its pretty ridiculous actually. I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t reply to a single one of these messages. They are all the same, needy and pathetic, and not one of the stand out or seem like they really want to get to know the girl.
Judging from the messages above there should be two big realisations and lightbulb moments for you…
1.) You should now realise why girls and especially gorgeous girls act and behave the way they do. Why they have defences up and why they sometimes seem to come across as bitches. All they are doing is seperating the wussies and needy guys from the real men. In dating methods like The Mystery Method, it explains that girls have shields up because there is no possible way that they can have time for each and every guy that tries to approach her or contact her, and she has to come up with a way of maximazing her time and wasting as little of it as possible. Now you can see why this is true!
2.) You should now easily be able to see how to be different from most guys in this world, how to not be needy and wussy, and how to get her attention just by standing out. Especially in real life, if you are having a good time with your buddies, you’re having fun, you walk confident, you can keep eye-contact and you are better than average on the dancefloor, you have a big edge over most guys already. Girls can pick up on this very easily, and when they do and you go to talk to them, all you have to do is be yourself, because a girl can spot quality very fast.
Think for yourself a moment, if you were or are a gorgeous girl, would you even remotely consider spending a millisecond of your time on any one of these guys?
I surely would not. Maybe there are some of these guys who are truly awesome people…but …by acting and portraying themselves the way they do, they might and most certainly will miss their chance of a gorgeous girl getting to know them!
P.s. If you want to know the secrets how to get girls from the perspective of a gorgeous girl, make sure you check out Tiffany Taylor’s GuygetsGirl.
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God bless you!
Chelsea said, “God bless you.” That’s my best word there. You are indeed blessed. Thanks.
U photo ez sexy, do u have manfriend?
Crazy man
Thank you for posting this. I wouldn’t consider myself a movie-quality gorgeous woman, but I’m reasonably attractive and when I had actual pictures of me up on a blogging site, I would get messages like that all the time from desperate, pathetic men all around the world. I never even bothered replying to any of them and eventually I got so sick of getting these messages, more than 20 of them per day, that I changed my profile picture to a 4th-grade quality picture I made in Paint. I started being interested in my boyfriend because he just acted like himself and didn’t make any wussy/desperate remarks like the ones displayed in this post.
To all the men out there – seriously. If you want a nice girl, be a nice guy. Beauty queens or not, we women respect men who respect US — and themselves. If you can show us that there is more to you than your “friend,” you’ll do better with us than you can ever imagine.
Hey Jo:) Yes its pretty strange how most men act…Think I should start a school and give some coaching:P
well we cant help it, ladies tend to be attracted by status and men are attracted by beauty. it is obvious biology. well what if i said lets fuck.. i am the president of Oil. that will come over as very rude but i would still own a bank hence you will fantasize about my money and you realize how many other women would want that, biologically you cant help it. .the great Nietzsche went mad trying understand women , at one time he was asked why he always whispered to horses; he replied i understand the horses. so your beauty well fade away but i well still own a bank. i have idea for next time post your college scores with a sexy picture and see who is really interested.
Hey Mike.
Thanks for leaving a comment
I don’t entirely agree, but i do agree with the fact that men want beauty and women want social status. (generalisation)
The thing about Nietzche (and not that he writes like a maniac filtered through the google tanslator) and women is that you can count the amount of liasons he had on a mitten. From one of those -a prostitute- he got the syph, which eventually chewed out his brain and killed him. I would not love advice from a raving syphylitic dud like him. Unless you’re looking for… the Gay Science!
Ba-ZING!
Hey.
You are a true man for acknowledging this truth. I only wish all men were as real and as humble as you.
Thank You!
Hey Diana!
Thank you for you kind words:)
Mike,
Thank you for your comment too.
I think however,you are missing the point of my post. There is NOTHING wrong with wanting to be with a beautiful woman, all I’m attacking is the way most guys go bout it.
Most woman want a real man, not some needy clingy wimpy guy. A real man is confident,humble,ambitious,passionate and original. One of the best books I have ever read that explains what a real man is, is called “The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida, its featured in the sidebar and on the recommended page of this blog, I suggest to get yourself a copy and you will realise what I’m saying in this post.
All the best
Diggy
I actually did this a couple years ago on myspace. I made an account using pics from some hot asian girl. I’ve got several hundred “friends” on there now, about 50 emails a day from guys looking to hook up, and thousands of comments, many from other asian girls talking like they know me in real life.
Haha, crazy how social networking sites work, guys just want to add any hot girl as a friend!
reading books to understand women. isnt that kinda missing the whole point. if all the women were the same then that book would do you good. there is also good reasoning which tends to work for men only. if somebody finds a girl sexy is it not the point of showing it truly and honestly that which is preferred by the ladies. women understand asshole the other kind scares them off. lol
Lol!
Very true mike.
Cool saying, I’m stealing that
“women understand asshole, the other kind scares them off”
I would have to agree.
I know from experience that this is the case. For example.
One day last week. I got 5 friend requests on myspace. (I’m a member of myspace, facebook and bebo…a little sad)
Anyway, One of the guys says…
‘Hey baby, Howz u? xxx’
The other says ‘Hey there, I’m sorry this is a tad random but I saw your page and hit ‘add’. This isnt a regular past time of mine- I promise’
He left no x’s. That is a particularly good move in my eyes. He didnt come across pervy or weird. He told me that he doesnt do it often. He also left the conversation open, for me to do some of the work.
For the first fellow, all I could have said was ‘Hey, I’m great, How are you?’ Whereas the latter allowed me to do some of the talking.
Who did I reply to? The second guy! Of course! Even though the better looking of the two was the first one. That was irrelevant. The fact that the first guy had spelled 2 out of 4 words incorrectly didnt help either.
If there is a gal catching your eye, dont mess it up. Be original. Be unique. Stand out from the crowd. No matter what you look like, if she likes the sound of you, that will count a lot more.
I have been talking to the second guy now for 8 days now and turns out that he’s a really great guy. We have a lot in common and he’s got a fantastic sense of humour. Long may it last.
Peace out
Hey Riri!
Cheers for stopping by
Really cool story, you should do your own case study sometime
Good luck with your 2nd guy, hope things work out!
Thank you for this! It’s good to know that not all hope is lost in the male species. A lot of times I come off as a bitch because of the way men approach me (not saying I’m hot or anything, haha) and it makes me look arrogant, but the truth is it actually lowers my self esteem. Whenever a guy is clearly only trying to get in my pants I always wonder if that’s all that men see about me. I ask myself if who I am as a person isn’t good enough, if I seem to come off as the type of woman that’d be okay with being an object?
Men really should take a lesson from this. There’s so much more to a woman than just a face. Everyone is attractive in their own way and should be regarded with a potentially wonderful personality instead of an easy shag or some sort of fantasy fulfillment.
Again, thank you :]
You’re totally welcome!!
You should now be able to see that having the world handed to them on a silver platter can sometimes be a minor inconvenience and make them bitter. Just imagine if every single member of the opposite sex would do anything you asked. You’d be a cold and rigid person too.
Get your shit together guys, girls got it tough.
wow. i did sutin like this. i got two model mugshots and posted them. after a day, i got 900 msgs from guys, and 450 from girls
Yep, you can do this over and over and get the same results each time.
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This is pretty obvious. If you want to completely max out your email account post a model female on craigslist.org casual encounters.
This is how Adult Friend Finder has sold for over 100 million dollars…
Haha… Yeah, it does suck being an attractive girl. (Sorry, I don’t really like the term “hot”)
Hey Mango
Haha, it has its perks too
Diggy…
The links are reversed on the books you are recommending. Otherwise this is good stuff. It is very difficult sit to watch my fellow man degrade himself. Hopefully, coming from you a few out there will reach out and grab a clue.
tRoaR
Hey Mike!
Thanks for pointing that out, luckily the site has has a complete overhaul so everything is A okay
Mike wrote: reading books to understand women. isnt that kinda missing the whole point. if all the women were the same then that book would do you good.
Other Mike answered: If you are not willing to read a book, where are you going to get your information? From the guys that are the subject matter of this blog post? Your parents? Your teachers? From getting shut down so many times you become an asshole? Reading a book, several of them, from different POV’s is a very good path to understanding.
That’s exactly what happen to me. I once wrote an ad for a classified ads’ website and I receive over 600 messages. Everybody was saying the same thing. On the 600 guys, only about three were original.
Hey Angie,
I hope out of those 3 you found at least 1 decent one to take you out for a drink
I agree whole heartedly, 99% of all men are so superficial! The world has changed so much, whatever has happened to good old fashioned values?
Straight out the window I guess
Chivalry is dead?
MTV and other pop media ran them over with a Mack truck, that’s what happened
Good story, and often sadly true. I used to pull crap like this and it hardly got me anywhere.
I started just letting more of my personality show, and honestly, if I can’t say anything meaningful, I don’t say it. In fact it takes effort for me to post like those, questionable males do. It,s also a good way to sort out the douchebags, only problem is, some males do hide behind a facade in order to “bump and dump”, which his sad.
Exactly man – the other night I was talking to one of my friends. He had just split with his girl for the second time. I told him to try imagining things from her perspective – she is super hot and guys hit on her constantly.
I told him chasing after her was a loser’s game. Also, I believe young girls like her get addicted to this feeling (of feeling like a goddess everywhere) and avoid being in a long term ‘exclusive’ relationship…
Vey True Yavor!
Chasing her would be the wrong strategy, this just validates her ego. As soon as he stops this and tells he to get lost, and that she is missing out, she will start to ask herself like “who is this guy to reject em” and actually start to chase him because he is now a challenge instead of a supplicating wussy
Thanks for this article. It’s actually true. Although I don’t perceive to be a hot gorgeous girl I do get some messages like these and end up deleting all of the messages. Not one stood out, since they were all the same.
Hey Giselle!
Thanks for stopping by
It’s sad isn’t it, You want me to send you an original message ? *wink wink* ?
hehehe
LOL thanks Diggy, and yes I received your message!
I just found your site through cheerupnation. After reading this I have decided I am too old to get these or not hot.
I found this article very interesting as a mother of both a boy and a girl.
I am working on an article on my site educating parents on internet safety for their kids. I bet more parents would be willing to talk to their kids if they saw this.
I would love to post an except of this and link it back to your site!
Thanks and I look forward to visiting your site more.
Cammie!!
Welcome to UpgradeReality!
I’ve seen you comment on Cheerupnation, so nice to finally meet you!
Haha, you still look pretty hot to me
Yeah it’s crazy what goes on online, and what pretty girls have to deal with for a long long time. I think it’s a good idea to educate kids about it, they will discover it for themselves, but just prevent them any possible hassle, maybe ways how to deal with it, because there are a lot of creeps and stalkers in this world.
You’re welcome to link to the article anytime!
Thanks for stopping by
Have an awesome day!
Diggy
Lol Diggy, really enjoyed reading that post. A very interesting look into the crap good looking women have to put up with on a daily basis, I will definitely remember this one.
Now just remember to delete the account, wouldn’t want to you get lost into pretending to be a lady too much. One could get very confused lol.
Great post, made me laugh.
Hey Jonny
Haha, glad you enjoyed it man.
hehe
Yep that account is all gone, …or is it?
Ha, what a cool idea!
I really feel sorry for hot women right now, reading those messages you got sent to that account was almost physically painful…
.-= Shane´s last blog ..Derren Brown: A Brief Glimpse Into an Incredible Mind =-.
Heya Shane
Haha, yeah it makes me cringe,horrible!
Thanks for stopping by!
Diggy, Great post man. It is pretty unbelievable to see so many people acting like that. And this was only via email. Imagine how many looks and cat calls she gets while she is walking down the street! Thats what I would like to see next. Find a girl, put her in a bikini and follow her as she walks around town. I bet it would be a scarier version of what you already witnessed…
Hey Sean!
haha, sounds like an awesome idea, and have a hidden spy cam on her and an audio recorder, make a first person view video “a day in the life of a pretty girl” .
Thanks for stopping by!
[...] wrote a post last week called This is what it’s like being a hot girl and it brought me 19000 visits in a few days! I couldn’t believe that I could get that many [...]
Hello, I’ve been that girl in the picture, and you’re right about how we put up walls. most of the guys who write me bore me to tears with these rote lines. I don’t mind being told I’m gorgeous at all, but I want much more than that…I want some depth and soul.
Heya Susan!
Welcome to Upgradereality! Thanks for stopping by
I checked your myspace profile and you are definitely the kind of girl I wrote about
I know what you mean, the shallow comments with nothing behind them, it’s just crude and offensive.
Let’s change the world by educating guys about this one at a time
Have a wonderful weekend!
[...] ——————————————————————————————————————————————————————This is what it’s like Being a Hot GirlThe difference between men and women is pretty big and being a guy you are mostly the predator.I’ve never seen it from a girls perspective and decided to set up an experiment,so I made an account on facebook with pictures of a really good looking girl, and filled in some interests, I must have had close to 50 random guys adding me and sending messages to this account, of course them thinking its the gorgeous girl in the display picture! [...]
Diggy,
Thanks for your courage in addressing a subject that can be very touchy in today’s society. I also appreciate the recommend of TWOTSP by Deida. I went to a Deida conference out in Seattle a year ago and it was a defining moment in my life. I just recently started a men’s focus group in my spiritual community to dig deeper into what the every day man views himself as. I’d like to share ideas with people like yourself on what we can do to build a great consciousness of masculinity.
To all the above,
Eli
Hi Diggy,
Found your website through Jennifer’s interview with you.
I identified with this post. I don’t get that many blokes asking me out but I would say in the past the most off-putting thing has been when a guy approaches you and asks you out before you’ve even exchanged any words. I mean, it’s best to at least say a few words and find out what someone’s like before you ask them out on a date – That is what turns me off because it comes across as shallow. Anyway, sorry for the bratty rant.
Glad you did this experiment
I look forward to exploring the rest of your blog!
Anna
.-= Anna Conlan´s last blog ..How to Change Your Life and Get What You Want Using the Law of Attraction =-.
Heya Anna!
Welcome to Upgradereality! Glad to have you here
Haha, it was about 50% bratty and 50% truth so no worries. Speak your mind, I love hearing other people’s views. I agree, at least a couple words should be spoken, but sometimes a minute of two of conversation can be enough to make a decision whether you want to get to know someone or whether you do not.
Thanks for stopping by
I would like to say that most men end up coming around but it is too late.
So if I could leave the men with any advice it is this….. Be a nice guy and you truly will end up with the hot girl. It might take a couple tries, but there are MANY women who have been treated badly by their ex, and they are looking for Mr. Right….
You don’t have to give away your ego, just be a gentleman.
That seems so incredibly true!
I guess the audience (netizens, I mean) needs a tutor like you! 
Bless you!
~ RokZRooM
You know, I wondered when someone would cotton on to this – don’t know about any of the other women out there but I’ve just stopped posting photographs altogether for exactly that reason (unless I’ve more reason to post than not).
It gets quite frustrating… Anyway, great post – hope more people read and apply this lol
Thanks Tylina! How about an avatar picture or the readers of this post?
Haha, this is a great post. I got a good laugh out of it. You would think a guy with good grammar alone would stand out. I’m going to have to think twice next time I message a girl on OkCupid.com now.
Haha Tony
Grammar is super important! Glad you enjoyed the article!
Hey Diggy,
THANK YOU! It’s about time men started to understand what it is like to be a girl in the world. Every time you walk out into the world (real or virtual), you are bombarded by men making all kinds of propositions. And the saddest part is, most of the time they all sound the same. THIS is why an original attempt, and the act of being real, is what captures a girl’s attention.
I have long suspected that the reason women respond to men with status isn’t so much about the status, but the fact that it gives a clue that perhaps there is substance to him. How else can we determine that, when there are so many men coming at us, with so many lame lines? A man with status is a signifier: this man has his focus on something other than JUST sex (though we know perhaps he has sought status just to be more appealing…but we hope it is more). Status indicates he may have levels of self-discipline, self-esteem, self-respect, and understands the concept of looking toward the future, planning his life, DESIGNING his life.
Men assume it is just ‘status’ we want. No, more often than not, it is that we are seeking someone who has it going on….who has a real life, who is creating a life of substance (not stuff, per se, but something that indicates he wants something other than to just bed us).
Yes, the signifier isn’t always accurate. but…how else can women sort through the endless propositions hurled at us each time we have the nerve to walk out in public? You experienced it for a brief amount of time online – imagine living with that every day of your life? When you just want to run an errand, go visit friends, or go out to the store? No matter where you go, there is ALWAYS SOME GUY, waiting to hurl some DUMB comment at you. And more often than not, there are the inevitable ones who want to take it a step further, brushing up against you in the subway, or worse.
Are we defensive? Yup. Do we desperately look for signifiers, qualifiers, to help us sort through the endless stream of men who approach us? Yup. Does the common signifier of ‘men with status’ look selfish or opportunistic? Yes it does. But it is always a reflection of the caliber of the girl, or of her morals/values? NO!!! More often than not, the girl is not a ‘gold-digger’, but a girl who is just lost and confused trying to navigate her way through the world, and desperately trying to figure out how to sort through all the flotsam floating by as she moves through the world.
Thank you for this post. It is much needed.
Laura!
Glad you enjoyed this post that it inspired you to tell me about it. I have at brief times gotten a glimpse what it’s like being a beautiful girl and having so many guys constantly approach you the whole time. I totally understand why girls like a guy who is different and original, and it makes him stand out a mile above every other guy she has ever met.
Wow, thank you for the awesome comment!
I’m soon going to do another post on a similar topic as this so stay tuned: )
Have an awesome week!!
That’s what you get when you have a society that is teaching men that they aren’t men unless they can get a woman in bed. The idea that your manhood is based on your sole ability to reproduce is everywhere in media.
The second problem that ads fuel to the fire is half naked woman who can’t have the self respect to cover themselves.
I’m married and I hate having to worry about naked woman all over the place when I go out on a date with my wife. I don’t want to be distracted because some girl decided she needs to cause other men to lust.
Look ladies, if you got it flaunt it is a bunch of bullshit. Cover it up.
You get sleeze balls becuase you dress like a whore and society, tv, media, etc represent hot girls as easy. Sex is everywhere and no wonder there is such dysfunction.
Hey Mike!
Thanks for stopping by and leaving your view. I agree with you on the fact that the media is largely responsible for the misconception about sex.
Girls who dress provacatively obviously attract attention from the wrong guys and in that case they are not allowed to complain about it.
However I do not agree that beautiful girls are responsible for all the sleazy guys hitting on them. I think that the majority of guys do not really know how to talk to girls without being creepy or overly sexual.
Cheers!
this article is not bad at all. but it barely grazes the surface of what attractive women and women in general put up with from men.
maybe in this case the guys lack social skills because they are pretty stupid to contact someone this way or say those things as if the girl is a stripper at a club.
but generally i don’t agree that its just lack of social skills or pressure from society. a lot of men are smarter than these guys and they still do this and are actually much worse.
because these girls are attractive many men act as if they deserve to be disrespected and put up with shit from them.
Hey Jenna!
Thanks for stopping by
I know what you are talking about but I cannot tell you why it is the case. I think that a man who disrespects a beautiful girl just because she doesnt want him is a man with low self esteem and low self worth.
This is hilarious! When I was single, I would crack up my snobby cute girlfriends when we would go out to nightclubs by finding the geekiest, lonliest looking guy there, and buy him a drink. I’d then hang out and dance with him all night. It guaranteed me an intellectual and stimulating conversation, while keeping away all the saps that thought they were cool. Oh, and the geeky guy was grateful for the company!
.-= Maria Brophy´s last blog ..Burnt Out? Revitalize Your Creative Energy =-.
Haha Maria
Glad you enjoyed it! Wow, I bet there are not a lot of girls who do that. Must be nice for the lonely guy to have 3 beautiful girls come up to him and buy him a drink. I’ve actually come to the conclusion that the very pretty girls hardly go to nightclubs anymore (or maybe only the top class ones) and instead go to parties at peoples houses and other social events where they are not at risk of being hit on by hundreds of drunk and sleazy guys. Thanks for stopping by
Annoying itsn’t it! Perspective is a great teacher
Awesome article! I’m here from stumble upon and will give it a thumbs up.
The worst for me is going to the bar or to a pub or basically any public place. I get annoying and degrading cat calls. “Hey baby nice *ss! Hey can I buy you a drink baby?” It’s so horrible and really disgusting and I don’t know if anyone out there would like it. When I ignore them I get “Oh fine, be a b*tch then! Your such a snob!” etc. So yes, girls have to have to develop tough skin to get through day to day.
And you are correct when you say the good ones no longer go to clubs. I don’t for that particular reason. I’m not a snob, but the comments are not flattering and they are degrading. When I just want to go out with friends to enjoy a drink and play pool, I’m not there to try and hook up with random creeps. Cat calls, like these facebook emails, don’t work and they never have.
Heya Mel!
Thanks for leaving a cool comment! Glad to hear that you enjoyed the article. You’ve pretty much summed it up. It sucks that it has to be that way! I do actually think that some girls become very b*tchy because of the attention they receive and how good they look but there are plenty of gorgeous girls who are really sweet and nice with a good heart. I think you’re the latter
Interesting experiment… and so typical the results. Thanks for posting this! Maybe some guys will read it and take it to heart.
.-= Jennie´s last blog ..Asian Kelp Noodle Explosion =-.
Heya Jennie!
I like your blog by the way! Looks yummy! Keep up the good work and soon you’ll have a very valuable resource! 
I hope guys will read it and take it to heart
It’s more like that is what it’s like to be a girl in general. I’m not hot at all and still I get a lot of those “ur cute” and “wanna fuck?” messages on various sites.
Still I wish I was as lovely as the girl in the photo you used, I think I could deal with more random messages if it meant I could be more attractive to the kinds of guys I am attracted to.
Hey Lia!
Welcome to upgradereality and thanks for stopping by!
Haha, yeah guys will be guys. I’m actually busy writing an updated version of this post so it will appear on my blog soon. I think that unfortunately from a guys persepective, a girls beauty is a big factor for relationships, especially in the younger years (20′s-30′s). A girl with the best personality in the world but average looks will find it more dificult to attract guys than if she were good-looking. But then again if she were good-looking, maybe guys only want her for her looks and not her personality. It’s a complicated matter but fun to think about and discuss
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Well, it’s probably best to be “in demand” than completely shunned. But people do stange things on-line and are not so aggresive in hitting on a girl off-line – i.e. face to face – in case they are rejected. Cheers.
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Great story! About a two years ago, I tried something similar on the dating site POF. I wanted to understand what dating sites were like from a woman’s perspective, because I wasn’t getting much response from my profile.
The results were stunning, and most of the replies I had were just like yours. I think I was getting something like 30-40 emails / day over a week. It was crazy!
I actually feel like I learned to empathize with women on dating sites, AND, more importantly, I learned how “not to” approach women on line.
You took great example to put forward your point. Again how close you keep your cards and keep the curiosity alive is another factor to attract. You need to evoke the ineterst to the level that person get used to you and find it difficult to go outside your company.