I hope you’re having a super day:)
I am really in the mood to share some of the Do’s and Don’t when it comes to meeting and dating girls, because so many guys are making mistakes that cost them many beautiful girls, and there are small things that you can do that make a world of difference.
For the girls reading this post, just enjoy a guy’s perspective on this and feel free to let the readers know if you agree with my points or not.
Don’t think I’m trying to lecture you here. All I’m doing is sharing what i have learnt from my interactions with girls, and what I have heard and seen other guys do.
THE DONT’s of MEETING AND DATING GIRLS
1-) Don’t look for a reaction from her. So many guys do or say things in the hope of getting a positive reaction from a girl. It is approval seeking and one of the bigger turn-offs.
2-) Don’t think of yourself as less worthy. No girl has more value than you, and even if she does, don’t see it in that light. A girl wants to be on your level or be raised to your level, nobody wants to drop their level to be with someone.
3-) Don’t lean in when talking to a girl. Remember this one when you go out to a club, look at all the interactions going on between men and women, and see how many guys are leaning in when they are talking to the women. It is a sign of weakness. Instead of leaning in, if you want to be close to her, pull her up against you so that your face is next to hers and you can whisper in her ear.
4-)Don’t ask for permission. It took me a while to grasp this. You are the man, take and lead her. She wants this, and if you do something she doesn’t like she will stop you or tell you. Trust me. (of course this doesn’t mean take her stuff or something along those lines, you’ll need permission for that)
5-)Don’t make a big deal out of something small, like kissing her in public, your fist kiss with her, how crazy you are about her. Keep it all on the low as if it’s normal, but every now and then explicitly let her know how much you like it or appreciate it. If you’re nervous about kissing her, she is going to be even more nervous.
THE DO’s of MEETING AND DATING GIRLS
1-)Be comfortable with who you are. Accept yourself fully, your body, your clothes, your style. Be proud of who you are. That is confidence. Girls love that. If you feel akward about something, she will pick up on it and she will feel akward too. If there is something about yourself that you are not proud of, take action, take steps to systematically change that which you are not proud of.
2-) Have intent but no expectations. So many guys have a hope that a girl will like them, or hope they will date them, or hope that they might get a kiss. NO! let go of the expectations and have intent. This means knowing what you want…again, its certainty and confidence. Have the intent of getting to know her, or getting her to like you, or kissing her. She will pick up on that, it’s pretty attractive and irrisistable…right girls?
3-)Be fun! There is hardly anything more attractive than fun. Having her smile and laugh at your jokes. If she is smiling and laughing when she is around you, you can be assured she is comfortable and probably attracted to you.
4-)Take the lead. Girls like to be lead. Don’t wait for her to make the moves. Like I said earlier, if she doesn’t like something, she will let you know. Be the man and choose where you want to take her. Be the one to initiate the kiss. Give her the rules and she will play your game.
5-)Don’t make it easy all the time, every now and then give her a challenge, or make her work for your attention. If you give her your 100% attention all the time, it’s too easy and she will likely get bored. Be mysterious sometimes. It will keep her on her toes:)
The secrets of the female psyche are finally available…