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Simple Attraction Secrets


I’ve spent the last 4 weeks hidden away behind my laptop and video camera, working on a top-secret product that is going to change the lives of many men forever…Haha, dramatic talk aside, I’ve spent the last 4 weeks working on a new product with my buddy Carl Harvey (A master NLP practitioner and an overall very cool dude).

The product is called Simple Attraction Secrets, and it’s a complete training course about eliminating fear, becoming confident and getting girls.

You may not know this, but my entire personal development journey began the day that I got so sick of not being able to get girls, that I decided to do everything in my power to change it. (In fact, I started this blog as a journal to document my growth and progress with my goal of getting better with girls, but that story is for another day).

I really sucked with girls. I was shy, nerdy, filled with doubts and limiting beliefs and was incredibly scared to even say Hi to a pretty girl (Seriously!). I know you wouldn’t think that now, but for the first 20 years of my life that’s how it went.

I was never popular, never got invited to parties and most of all…never got any girls.

After I finished school, I spent a fortune on pickup and attraction courses and over the course of 4 years I approached literally hundreds of girls in my quest of getting to a point where I could hookup with a girl almost every time I went out.

I make it sound easy, and just summed up 4 years of hard work, frustration and enjoyment into one tiny paragraph. As you can imagine there is an incredible story behind it all. Much more than meets the eye.

Initially I was blown away by the fact that you could actually learn to get better at attracting girls. I always thought it was something you either had or didn’t have. Like, you had to be born with it, and if you weren’t, then you were destined to suck at getting girls for the rest of your life.

Boy, was I wrong! (And happy that I was wrong, otherwise life wouldn’t have been as fun as it is.)

I bought countless courses from dozens of ‘gurus’, who claimed that their course would turn me into a master at attracting girls within X days (you know the usual hype). I studied their methods furiously, and I put into practice what they told me to do.

how to get girls

This is where this story gets fun to read!

The problem I had (but didn’t realize until many months later) was that all these courses were based on lines and techniques. That meant that I would go and learn a certain line or technique, go up to a random girl and repeat that line to her.

At first it didn’t work at all, and girls just laughed or walked away. Yep…that hurt my frail little ego a lot.

After a few months of doing this, I started getting better. I had said these lines and techniques so many times, that they were almost automatic and I didn’t even have to think about them anymore. I had become a bit of a robot with a thought process of:
1-Target Acquired – pretty girl
3-Say line 21
4-Hope for the best

And yes…I started getting results. Girls wanted me to keep the conversation going, I got a couple phone numbers, a few dates and even made out with a few girls on the same night I had met them. (This was HUGE for me, it wasn’t even remotely present in my reality that I could actually do this).

Many months later I started running into problems. Serious problems.

I got to the point where I had a fair amount of success with these lines and techniques, and that girls would become attracted enough to want to see me again and hang out or go on a date with me. (Woohoo!)

But after spending a few hours with a girl, I had used up every single line and technique that I knew, and I had nothing left to say. That meant…akward silences and me going back to my shy self. And again, that meant no attraction, or whatever attraction there was, died instantly.

So after small success and many months or practice, I was back to square 1 (Only hundreds of dollars poorer).

The only light at the end of the tunnel was the fact that I had become more confident about talking to girls I had never met (but still far from where I am today). I stopped studying attraction courses and I stopped reading theory about how to get girls. Over the next 2 years, I continued to go out twice a week and approach as many girls as I could.

I mostly went to bars and clubs and talked to every girl in the venue. Sometimes I even approached the same girl a couple of times, because I would forget that I had already approached her. The look on her face when I came to talk to her again (and sometimes even said the exact same line) was priceless. Haha!

The result of me doing all these approaches and talking to all these girls every week was that I became less and less interested in the outcome. I got rejected by dozens of girls every month, and the more this happened, the less I started to care about what she thought about me.

This gave me an enormous increase in my confidence, which in turn led me to be myself which eventually led me to being to where I am today.

Get Girls

I won’t say that I’m a master pickup artist, or that I can get every girl I talk to. In fact, I still get a lot of girls who aren’t interested or reject me when I talk to them. But…

Over the last few years I’ve hooked up with more girls than most men do in multiple lifetimes. This may sound conceited, but I know I’m a good/cool guy. I know there are many girls out there who I’m a great match for, and I know that I can get pretty girls.

I’m actually very modest about this thing and prefer not to mention it to other people, that’s why I’ve been hesitant to post my story about my success with getting girls so that the world can read it. I don’t boast about it or go around thinking, “I’m so good with girls” or “I’m the sh*t”.

Nope, I’m just me, having a good time and doing how I wanna do. But I am like 1000 times happier with life now that I know I can get a girl almost every time I go out. If I’m in the mood for it, then I will. If I’m not in the mood, then there is no pressure to get a girl.

I see so many guys in the situation where they are really bad with girls. They can’t get dates, they can’t even have conversations with a girl they like because they are too scared and they can’t get laid if their life depended on it. Does this sound like you? Maybe it does, maybe it doesn’t…

I know what that feels like because I’ve been there. And it sucks. My heart goes out to the guys that don’t know how to get girls. Every now and then I meet a guy who’s heart is crushed by a girl, or who has been chasing a certain girl for the last 3 years. It makes me cringe and it makes me want to tell them what they are doing wrong, and what they should be doing right.

And So ‘Simple Attraction Secrets’ was Born

My buddy Carl Harvey was in the exact same situation. For the majority of his life he really sucked with girls!

He too managed to get really good with girls to the point where he can hookup when he wants to. He has managed to get the girl of his dreams and he’s been together with her for the last few years already.

The only difference between Carl and I is the way that we got good with girls. While I bought dozens of courses about attraction and spent months in the field learning through trial and error, Carl spent thousands of dollars on NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) training.

Basically, these NLP techniques allowed him to rebuild his mind and undo all the years of social conditioning and bad programming. He learned to create confidence instantly, remove limiting beliefs and build confidence through many proven and researched techniques.

Together we have created what I would say is THE BEST COURSE about eliminating fear, becoming confident and getting girls ON THE ENTIRE INTERNET!

We’ve taken all our combined years of experience, thousands of approaches and all our successes and failures and combined it into a product that will teach you how to get better at attracting and getting girls. It’s a series of 10 videos, each on a different topic and up to 30 minutes in length per video.

The reason why I say that it is the best course out there is because I’ve bought ALL the big attraction courses, and it didn’t help me much at all. As I said, most of them are based on lines and techniques that you need to learn and copy, and in the end you are not being yourself.

We teach you how to get good with girls by being yourself, and we teach you how to build your confidence from the foundation upwards. If you have a weak foundation, you will never get good with girls, so that’s why you need to start from scratch and rebuild all your beliefs and skills with girls.

We have the unique advantage of achieving great success with two totally different methods, and when we combined our knowledge, we created a course that is absolutely fool-proof in teaching guys how to eliminate fear, become confident and get girls.

Anyways, I don’t mean for this to be a sales pitch or hard sell at all. We are not even officially launching the product until next year!

The point of this article was for me to share my journey with you, and to make you aware of the fact that even if you suck with girls right now, you can learn the skills of attracting and hooking up with girls. You are able to walk into a bar and take a girl home with you the same night, it’s just a matter of learning how. And Carl and I can teach you that.

I’ll tell you what… We’ve actually created a FREE 30 minute video sharing a couple of our most important techniques about getting girls.

Check it out at

You have absolutely no obligation to buy, but if you really like what you see and you don’t want to wait until next year to start learning how to get better with girls, then you will have the option to buy (And NO, it will not even cost you as much as $47).

Oh, and I thought I’d mention that it doesn’t matter how old you are, where you come from, what you look like or how much money you have. You can learn to get girls regardless of your background or situation. I’d say that our course is aimed at guys from 18-35, but anyone is welcome to check it out.

Chat soon!

P.S. If you want the top rated Guy’s attraction secrets course online today check out, check out: The Tao of BadAss Course

  • Tristan

    Huh. I don’t know what to think about this! This kind of thing isn’t for me, but more power to ya for gaining the confidence, making a product about your experiences to help others, and hopefully making money off of it. Good luck, man!

    • Diggy

      Hey Tristan,
      No worries man, thanks for stopping by and for the wishes!

      Happy holidays and an awesome 2011!

  • Dia

    Hi Diggy,

    Sounds a cool book! Overcoming your fear and limiting beliefs and gaining confidence are really the key to approaching and attracting girls. Thanks for sharing

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  • Jonny

    Ahh I see you have a picture of my girlfriend for the first image.

    • Diggy

      Of course Jonny, thanks for letting me borrow her for the product ;)

  • chicsinger simone

    Sounds like a good course, Diggy, but I had to laugh at your choice of photos. Those girls don’t look like they need any guys to have a good time!

    • Diggy

      Haha Simone!
      Awesome comment:)

      Yeah but you never know. They might be looking for a menage a trois.

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • BunnygotBlog

    “I’m pretty sure that you being such a pretty girl, you have no idea how scary and intimidating it is for 90% of the male population to approach you or start a conversation with you. It’s sad but true.”
    Thank you, Hon.
    I find most men to be intimated by my career and independents.I think men need to feel isn’t my looks so much.
    I find the most used approach is ” You look like you are having a hectic day,”The signal here is that he is interested in what is going on,which a female likes.I know the male mindset isn’t open to this but remember she is all about emotions.

  • BunnygotBlog

    Since you sent me this post even just for men,I feel I have to comment on it.
    Men don’t have to come-on with the “hi-pretty”,women like respect and intelligence,computer nerds are in by the way!
    Are men thinking more about hooking up then actually meeting someone with substance for a long term relationship?
    I know the answer to that and there is where you guys need to change things.
    Just remember she is more then a vagina.

    • Diggy

      Hey Bunny,
      Thanks for stopping by and being the first girl to share your thoughts:)

      I’m pretty sure that you being such a pretty girl, you have no idea how scary and intimidating it is for 90% of the male population to approach you or start a conversation with you. It’s sad but true.

      I think that everyone has different goals, and goes through different stages in their life. Some guys want to sleep with as many women as they can, others just want to have one amazing girl.

      I think most guys will go through a phase of wanting to be with a lot of girls, and after a couple years get bored of that and want a girl to settle or be in a great relationship with.

      Of course a girl is more than just a walking vagina. Haha. I know many guys can be a**holes, but there are also good ones out there. And just like there are guys who just want to hookup with girls, there are girls who just want to hookup with guys and have zero interest in relationships.

      The whole point of my story and this product I’ve created with Carl is to allow guys to overcome their fears, remove their limiting beliefs and become confident with talking to girls. Whether they want to use that to sleep with as many women as possible, or whether they want to get an amazing girlfriend is up to them.

      I just know what a huge difference it has made in my life being able to talk to girls and get a girl when I want one, compared to living a shy and fearful life, frustrated by not being able to get girls.

      I hope this all makes sense:)
      Have an awesome day!

  • Goran

    Well, I leave up that to you yo make that conclusion ;)

    Just a hint: Croatia is very beautiful country (nice coast, many islands…) and especially I recommend u visit it over summer. I’m sure you’ll find hotness in any sense there :)

  • Goran

    Hi Diggy!
    Your story reminds me again on my beginning.

    Similar story man.

    Seduction was the very first stuff that got me into personal development.

    While I was studying (Computer Science) in Zagreb, Croatia and I was surrounded with nerds (sorry guys, sad but true), my dating life started to suck. Although in high school I had pretty good one…

    Nevertheless, one day by chance a friend of mine, shared a couple of videos about seduction (De Angelo, Mystery, Pickup 101 and similar) and I decided to do something about my dating life…

    I went online and found a Croatian seduction forum (Bad boy also was a registered user back then). When I contacted the guys there, to meet and learn from each other, most of them rejected this request except a guy by name Vedran.

    I met him and since our first meeting, I knew this guy is going to rule the seduction scene. Since then we’ve become a good friends, went sarging often and did a lot of couch surfing together.

    In the meanwhile, we went on different paths (I moved to 2 different countries within 3 years; he started to work as a seduction instruction on with his partner Konrad)…

    We still travel together from time to time and I would highly recommend you to check his site and contact these guys, cuz they are really good in the field, my friend :)


    • Diggy

      Hey Goran!
      Thanks for sharing your story here!

      It’s awesome to see how many guys actually got into personal development because of their desire to get better with girls! It sounds like you have had some very cool experiences traveling the world and hooking up with girls!

      I’ll check out your friends site now, thanks for mentioning it!

      P.S. I hear Croatia has some of the hottest women in the world?

  • Srinivas

    Having been through kind of a similar journey, I’m looking forward to seeing what you’ve put together.

    • Diggy

      Hey Srini,
      It’s a crazy cool journey that changes your entire life. At least, it changed mine completely.

      Once you realize you have defeated the odds and gotten so much better with girls, it’s only a matter of applying yourself to any field in the world and you can achieve the same success. I’m doing that now with the IM world, and before the end of next year I’m targeting $5k a month from my online business.

      You’ll hear more from me on Wednesday!

  • Brandon

    Hey Diggy,

    Good stuff man!

    I used to try and use lines when I first found the community about 3 years ago, problem was I’d forget them as soon as I walked up to the girl.

    I found I was getting the most success when I started to keep things as simple as possible, it becomes a lot easier when you stop over-thinking every little detail of an interaction and just go with your gut. You see results faster when you keep things simple as well.

    Also to any guys reading this don’t underestimate how getting a stylish haircut can significantly increase your success with girls. When I switched from going to a run of the mill barber to get my hair cut to getting it styled, the difference in reception when I approached a girl was ridiculous.

    I’ve lost count of how many guys I’ve overheard in bars and clubs that are moaning to their friends about how girls don’t give them the time of day when they have a bad haircut (that 9 times out of 10 haven’t even bothered to wash and style before they came out to the club). It makes a massive difference guys

    By the way Diggy let me know when your product is out and I’ll promote it on my blog.

    - Brandon

    • Diggy

      Hey Brandon,
      Yeah that is indeed another problem with using lines. You have to remember them. If you mess the line up or you forget how it goes, then you look like even more of an idiot when you approach the girl:)

      You are right about the haircut. Simple little changes to your appearance and style can make a world of difference when it comes to attracting girls. Not everyone can be goodlooking, but everyone can be well-groomed and take a shower before going out.

      I’ll definitely let you know when we are ready for affiliates to promote our product! Thanks for offering!
      Have a fantastic week!

  • Josh Lipovetsky

    Nice pic selection, Diggy! :)

    Keep on keeping on, brother. You and Carl! I know many people will resonate with these methods. Inner game is where it’s at!

    As for myself, I’m working on becoming a better communicator. I’m also learning how to drive soon, so I will be able to leave the house more (by myself), and improve myself socially. It’s tough having an illness, with all my medical devices, but I’m not gonna create a limiting belief that I can’t get girls because of it. I know it’s possible, and I know it’s been done before!

    Josh Lipovetsky.

    • Diggy

      Heya Josh!

      Thanks for stopping by brother.

      You have the right attitude man, and something that all the other guys can look up to and respect!
      Just keep shining and stay positive and you can do it!

      Wish you all the best!

      P.S. Feel free to contact me and I’ll help you out anytime

  • Tony Ryan

    Awesome stuff Diggy! I too am in the success with women realm and I would say that 95% of the people teaching it aren’t model citizens to learn from. After reading your blog, your philosophies and general vibe as a person, you seem pretty qualified.

    In an industry filled with marketing hype, unethical practices and general nonsense, it’s a breath of fresh air to see something like this. Good for you man!

    • Diggy

      Hey Tony,
      Yeah I’ve been following you for a while. Seems you know what you’re talking about:)

      The thing with marketing is that if you know how to do it properly, you can sell rubbish and thousands of people will still buy it, just because your copy is so convincing.

      When you have the same fantastic marketing, but with a fantastic product too, then you have a real winner!

      Thanks for the kind words. I created this course in the most down to earth, practical way possible, so that if i had given it to myself 5 years ago it would have transformed me in weeks instead of years.

      Have an awesome day!

  • Parker Lee

    ah this makes so much sense now.

    why you were so interested in that post I had put down on woman and what not.

    You know, i wasn’t always a life/social coach.

    before i started how to mingle, i was a dating coach, one of the best ones out there.

    my initial “fan base” derived from men who knew what I could do for them.

    And one day,before I knew it, I became really good at people in general, thus how to was born.

    There’s obviously much more to this story, but i know EXACTLY what you went through, as a student and teacher of this wild thing called game.

    here’s a video i made featuring me and my students years and years ago.

    14 different cities under 5 minutes video:

    • Diggy

      Hey Parker,
      Sorry for the internet wobbles. I know you’ve been on a similar journey. I’ve read many of your articles:)

      Going to check your video out right now. I think this market and industry lacks people who can teach what the game is all about in an easy, no bullsh*t way.

      Eventually everyone has to choose and refine their own style, because what works for me may not necessarily work for you. Don’t get me wrong, many of the principles will be the same, but you just have to find what works for you and what you feel comfortable with after you have the basics of attracting girls handled.

  • Carl Harvey


    Great description Diggy!

    I’m absolutely thrilled with how awesome the stuff we’ve put together is.

    I’m so glad we decided NOT to make it about lines to say, and “techniques” to “game” girls.

    Instead, it’s a great mix of confidence building NLP, integrating beliefs of successful dudes, and how to give off a natural air of confidence – and how to get girls by being YOU.

    It’s been awesome partnering with you on this – and I can’t wait to see the results dudes get with it!


    • Diggy

      Hey Carl,
      Yeah man we’ve created something really valuable here.

      I think it could help hundreds if not thousands of guys eliminate their fear and become confident with girls and teach them how to get girls almost every time they go out.

      Thanks for stopping by and letting the readers here at Upgrade Reality know who you are:)

  • Vic Dorfman

    Ah! Returned to add a thought and found your comment waiting..

    Yes, same here.

    I was just thinking recently about how much game has changed my life and how I feel like I can catch bullets in the matrix while everybody is wondering wtf is going on in social situations.

    Much like you, I started with a lot of outer game stuff that got me limited results with the wrong kinds of girls.

    When I started changing the kind of person I am and reprogramming myself with useful beliefs…well, I don’t need to tell you how it goes, playa ;-)

    Anyway, much luck on the product.

    Feel free to reach out if you’d like me to review it for you. skype is vtotheyouknow.

    Good Vibes!

  • Vic Dorfman


    Indifference is the most powerful force in the universe. Seriously.

    And I’ve been through the courses, videos and ebooks and going out 7 nights a week.

    Definitely, as you progress, you begin to see the forest for the trees.

    But I would never want to trade that interesting/sometimes-excruciating and very educational journey.

    Props for putting this together brother. I’ll be eager to see what you guys have come up with.


    • Diggy

      Hey Vic!

      Thanks for stopping by!
      Ahh, so you also went through the journey? It’s life-changing isn’t it. And afterwards when everything clicks, it’s like you get jedi perception of the world.

      This journey with girls also sparked a whole self improvement journey for me. It got me interested in meditation and things like EFT.

      There’s so much information out there and once you realize that you can learn and pretty much achieve anything, it’s like you never want to stop learning.