Kissing is absolutely amazing and so much fun, and especially that first kiss, taking that leap from being two complete strangers or even two people who have known each other for ages to becoming intimate with each other.

When I was younger (around high school) kissing used to be a big deal. Everyone used to talk about it and gossip, ooh did you hear..so and so kissed. Now kissing has become pretty normal…

**Note** A girl will feel what you feel…so if you think a kiss is a big deal and it makes you really nervous…guess what it’s going to do to her. Yes…it will make her nervous and awkward too.

So do you belong to those people who think it takes 5 dates before you can kiss a girl?
That’s a myth!

Sometimes it takes 5 minutes, sometimes 30 minutes, but it shouldn’t take longer than the first date, the second date as a maximum.

It is circumstancial. In a clubbing environment it is very possible to get make-outs with a girl under 30 minutes BUT, it also makes it a bit difficult. If you are going to be needy or make out with her for 2 hours while you’re at the club, chances are that she will regard it as a once-off and you will not see her again, probably because she thinks she gave you the wrong impression.

When you do find a girl who is into you and wants to make-out with you at the club, either keep it fun and teasing and kissing to a minimal and leave an expectation for more, get her number and leave or be good enough to escalate it right there and take her home with you from the club.

Some girls are really too shy to kiss in front of their friends or others, but as soon as you get alone she is all over you. Something I have come to learn after having my attempts rejected many times but I just didn’t care and ploughed on, and then when we were alone she practically attacked me!

Going For The Kiss

With experience, you will be able to judge far quicker if she is or is not interested in you. It’s hard to explain, but it just becomes intuitive. Like with anything that you have done for a long time, it becomes automatic. You know what to look for, and if the signals are there you can just go for the kiss.

Okay, so after a bit of background information, here is how you know if she is ready to kiss:

Her body language will give you a lot of clues as to her interest in kissing you.

• Are her legs crossed away from you or towards you, is her posture leaning in to you? Leaning in to you is always a good sign.




• Does she ask YOU questions, is she showing a genuine interest in you?




• Will she leave her friends for a while to come and talk to you?




• Is she comfortable with your touch on her arm or her leg, does she maybe even touch you back?




• When you take her hand and squeeze it, does she squeeze back?

Any of the above really give you an indication that she is interested in you and would want to kiss you.

Mostly when I feel a connection, I can sense when she is ready to be kissed. One thing I like to do a lot is to tickle her, and if she enjoys it, or it makes her laugh and she allows me to continue doing it, then I know and I kiss her.

If you don’t know each other well enough, it happens often that your initial kiss attempt is rejected. It doesn’t matter, don’t be phased by it. Don’t be affected by it, and even if you are, do not let it show. If she picks up that she can easily affect your behaviour, it’s usually a major turn-off for her.

As long as she doesn’t get up and walk away, everything is still good, it just means you have to try harder and give her more or a reason to want to kiss you. (not by trying to convince her logically why she should kiss you, but by showing her you are a cool guy she wants to kiss). Change the topic completely, maybe even change the venue and then try again a bit later. The initial rejection does not always mean no, it means ‘not yet’.

Why It’s Important To Be Able To Kiss

An amazing kiss will tell a girl a lot about you and can make the difference between a next date or her never wanting to see you again.

When it comes to dating, going on a first date with a girl you haven’t kissed yet, it’s important to be relaxed.

Don’t be nervous throughout the whole date because you want to kiss her, it will just mess it up. Rather have the mindset of:

I’m going to kiss her, it is not a question of if, just a question of when.

Don’t wait until the end of the date to kiss her, that mostly does not work. Normally after an hour or two is a good timing.You can even set up a little challenge or “punishement”.

If she does something that is unusual, you can tell her

You:”Hey! If you do that again…you’re going to have to accept the consequences of your actions”
Her: “Haha…and what are you gonna do about it?”
You: “I’m going to kiss you like you’ve never been kissed before”

Of course it depends on the situation what you say, but improvise, I am just giving a general sense of direction.

A Line You Can Use

One line that I have used quite a few times with success is one from a dating guru called Mystery.

(I must add that then line itself doesn’t do magic, it just helps in certain situations. I have heard a lot of times that when I kissed a girl she really didn’t expect it and this line gives here a clear indication that you want to kiss her.)

It goes like this:

“On a scale of 1-10, how good do you kiss”

If she answers 8-10 you can say something like
“I don’t believe you, let’s find out”

Mostly she will say:
“I don’t know”

Then again you say:
“Let’s find out” and kiss her.

It’s just a cute little excuse of telling her you are about to kiss her:)

Something I have read is that a girl decides, subconsciously or consciously, on the first date whether she is or is not going to kiss you, and whether she will or will not sleep with you. Once that decision has been made, it’s pretty hard to change.

It depends entirely on your actions, and how you can make her feel. That first impression you make is very important, and the first kiss you have with her is going to determine a lot of what will happen between the two of you in the future.