Fighting for something or cutting losses and moving on?

This is a topic that has also got me thinking the last few months.
With anything that you do in life, whether it be a degree you want to study, a new business venture, a girl you want to date, a job that needs to be done, some things are much more difficult than others, and my question is, do you fight the problems, do you take on the struggle and put everything you have into it to succeed, or is it better to go with the flow and do things that you are good at without the neccessary problems?

On the one hand, nothing comes easy and it takes much practice.
Look at most successful people, they started at the bottom and struggled and fought and persevered, sometimes when normal people would give up they did not, and they succeeded.
The problem with society is that you always see the people who made it, they are the ones that are lifted high into the limelight, but all the many more who failed, they are forgotten and not spoken of very quickly.

In my opinion, it is important that you decide that whatever it is you are undertaking, that it is something you really want and that you are willing to fight for it and give it everything you have.
I don’t mean fight physically, I mean facing all the problems, the mental fight, the physical work, the time and money it is going to take to get it to work.

If it is something you really enjoy doing, you might actually happily accept all the problems that come with it, and conquer them naturally.
It is when you are doing something for the wrong reasons, like greed or money, but actually hate what you are doing, that your life is miserable.
Imagine for example becoming a lawyer, or an accountant, or an engineer just because the paycheck is huge, but you hate every second of your job?

And then imagine having to work your butt off for 10 years before you see real success, but doing something you love so much you would do it in your sleep if you could?

To get to the top will take a struggle, but my other point is that everyone is good at something.
So why swim upstream against something you may not be good at, while there is something else at which you will really excel and which you also enjoy and will succeed at much quicker.

Does that make sense?

I can give you an example like that with girls and dating.
If you’re a girl obviously it applies to dating guys.

Have you ever met someone you found really attractive, and they seemed so cool and you were pretty crazy about them, and said to yourself..”I really want her to be mine” ?
And then you get talking, and there is some interest from her side, and you make progress, but every word, every action, every date is such a struggle. Like you have to fight and wrestle her down to get her to agree, and because of the slow progress and the fact that you want her, you still somehow think she is right for you?

And then you meet another girl, who is equally attractive, the most gorgeous smile, and you feel the same “wow” feeling and that you want her to be yours. And then you get to talking, and she is so responsive, and everything just flows so smooth, effortless, sometimes to the point where she is even leading the interaction, and you get along so well for such a long time.

Now in this case, would it be better to “fight” and struggle with the one girl to MAYBE eventually get her? Or would it be better to realise you are swimming against the stream and just move on to find that other girl who you can be just as crazy about with minimal struggle?

I choose the second option.

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Life is all about choices, and maybe all our choices are already decided for us,somehow automatically by fate or karma, but it might be possible to change the script of that automatic choice-making machine, and get us to choose the optimal outcome with the minimal struggle.

Remember, if you are going to take on a struggle to get to the top or achieve something, make sure it is a struggle you choose. Personally, an example I can give is to be fit, to go to gym, build up my body, and martial arts, becoming good at fighting.

It’s a struggle yes, you have to go to the gym, train, get hot and sweaty, and do it many weeks, months and years to get to where you want. But it is something I really enjoy, and have chosen to do.
There are some days where I really don’t want to train, because I feel I don’t have the energy or I’m too lazy:) But I do it anyway.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on personal struggles you have gone through or are going through:)