Too much of anything is bad, no matter what it is.
Too much money
Too much work
Too much dancing
Too much Drinking
Too much sleeping
Too much holiday
The list can go on forever, but the main theme of this post is moderation.
We need a balance of many things in our lives to make them as complete as possible.
The greater the variety of things we include, the better we are overall as a person and the more enjoyable our life becomes.
If you think I’m talking nonsense, and there is no such thing as too much money, or too many girlfriends or too much sex, let’s look at food for an example.
Take your favourite food in the whole world, mine would be sushi, maybe you like pasta or steak.
What if you only ate your favourite food, breakfast, lunch and dinner. The first few meals it would be fantastic, but I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t even last a week before you say..”PLEASE GIVE ME SOMETHING ELSE!”. Simply because our bodies aren’t designed to extract all the essential nutrients and vitamins from one single source, and we need a great variety of fruits, vegetables, nuts and protein to get our optimum nutrition! Just like it applies to food, it applies to everything else!
(although I remember reading a research study about a man who wanted to prove a point and lived off only spirulina for TWO YEARS! Yes I believe it is possible because Spirulina is extremely nutrient rich and is a complete source of protein, everything the body needs.)
Variety is the spice of life.
Yes I like using quotes, especially from movies, a lot of them hold such truth.
Doing something too much takes the joy out of it, and its something that a lot of us do if we get the chance. I do it personally with music…when I hear a great tune, I get addicted to it, and I listen to it over and over and over, hundreds of times, until one day the song doesn’t interest me anymore, and then I’m sick of it and DON’T WANT TO HEAR IT AGAIN!
Not that this is neccessarily a bad thing, depending on what it is, because I got the joy out of it for as long as it lasted, but it can be bad…especially when it comes to relationships…
Here it is especially important that one of you or both of you if possible, take the responsibility to add variety to the relationship. Usually it is the mans job to do this, and if you haven’t been doing it, and finding your relationships go sour often…think about this.
Initially you meet each other, everything is great, the attraction is there and you find each other super hot, you’re interested in getting to know each other and you seem to get along great. Where most guys go wrong is that they start to text and call the girl way too much , every day or a few times a day…
What do you think starts to happen…? She may play along a bit at first, but then starts to get bored, starts to think that this guy is the same as every other guy, he is needy and clingy and not going to give me my space…and voila…its over before you know it.
For interest sake…girls do it too, but much less than guys:)
So what should you do?
In the beginning for the first few months dont call her more than twice a week, and vary your text messages. Sometimes be serious…sometimes be funny, vary the times, send her a message as she wakes up in the morning, and call her when she is about to go to bed…that way the last thing she thinks about is you, and in the morning the first thing on her mind is you.
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Try not to ask questions in text messages, it can eat you up while you are waiting for a reply. Or ask a question, but one that doesn’t matter if you get a reply or not.
Don’t ask more than one question in a message, and ask it at the end of the message, otherwise it is more likely not going to be answered.
Text her 3 days in a row, and then do nothing for 4 days.
Sometimes reply immediately, sometimes take longer to reply.
When it comes to seeing her, the first few months don’t see her more than twice a week…keep things interesting and fresh, that you always have something new to find out about each other and something different to do.
Again here variety is key. Its nice to be lazy and hang at home and watch movies together…but if you do this every week it gets boring. Do something adventurous and sporty, go iceskating or take a hike up a mountain together. Go out partying and dancing, invite her to join you and your friends, go to the beach, do nothing and tell HER to come up with a plan.
I could carry on like this for a while, but hopefully you get the idea I’m trying to give you.
ANYTHING THAT STAYS THE SAME LOSES ITS APPEAL.
Seriously…you may be able to think of a few exceptions and PLEASE…post them in a comment:)
But even your job, your house, your car…many people want change or a bit of variation.
I am aware that there are some people who are perfectly happy just being, having the same job, living in the same house all their lives, having the same car…but they also do everything in moderation and don’t do too much of one thing.
I know its something we don’t think of a lot, but I hope that this article will make you think a little and help you add variety and moderation to your life:)