You are unique, one of a kind, and perfect in your own way.
You are not the best at everything, but you are great at something.
Your skin is not always blemish-free, be indifferent.
You make mistakes, use these to learn from to get better.
You may not be better-looking than many, but you are better-looking than some.
You may not be a millionaire, but that means you can still be rich.
What I’m saying is that nobody is perfect in every way. There is nobody that is not insecure about something.Brad Pitt has his looks, Bill Gates has his money, Jay Z has fame and money, but even these superstars have insecurities.
Im bashing on insecurities because so often they hold us back, they cause us to act defensively, even hurt others and miss great oppertunities. Insecurities go hand-in-hand with self-limiting beliefs. Thinking you cannot do something, or are not good enough for someone, or feel inferior. Do you have a secret crush on someone that you know is sooo much prettier than you, and you would love to ask them out, but you are insecure about your own looks, and thus believe you are not good enough for them?
This applies to so many situations, I just used the above as an example. You can be insecure about literally anything: your personality, your friends, your skills and your abilities to name a few. These insecurities create self-limiting beliefs and cause us to settle for mediocre, for much less than we are capable of and that we deserve.
How do you overcome this?
Simple. Embrace your insecurities!
Accept that which you are insecure about. Make it a part of you. Instead of letting it hold you back, use it to propel you forward. What is the worst that can happen? You could fail? Get rejected? Get hurt? It’s all part of the learning process. Again there is the distinction between what you can and cannot change. The things you are insecure about that you cannot change, you just have to accept and from this moment not spend a single second worrying about anymore. These are things like where you were born, your height, your skin-color and bone structure and what happened in your past.
Other things that you are insecure about that you can change would be things like your body and fitness. Feeling fat and unfit? Join a gym and get in shape. What about not being able to act and being too afraid to go to auditions. Take time and join acting classes. Put yourself out there.
Once you face your fears (this is what insecurities are…fears), you will get over them. It may be one of the hardest things that you have to do, but the only way to be truly free of your own self-limiting beliefs is to totally embrace your insecurities, and face them head-on.
People see you the way that you see yourself.
This is one thing that I read in a book about making new friends and meeting new people. Whatever perception of yourself you give off and whatever expectation you deliver is often what people adjust their opinions and impressions too.
For example, if you meet people in another city and you greet them with something like:
“Heya! Wow, I love this city, people are so friendly here! They even go completely out of their way to help a tourist like me”.
With this you are setting the expectation that people here are incredibly friendly and want to help you out. When someone hears this, they often feel compelled to live up to the reputation and expectation you have set. It works exactly the same way when you project your insecurities. When you are negative about yourself, or think you cannot do something, or cannot achieve something, and other people pick up on this, do you think they are going to think you are the most awesome person in the world?
People like people with a healthy self-esteem. There are some who will offer to help you out when they sense your insecurities (like people who have their own self-improvement blogs), but most people will quietly shy away and tend to ignore you.
It starts with a positive thought.
How do you turn this around? I’ve already mentioned embracing your insecurities and facing them head on.
I think it all starts with a thought, a positive thought, one that you use to replace the negative thought. Then you repeat this postive thought as time goes by, over and over and over in your mind, and let it grow.
See your insecurites as a seed in your mind, and your positive thoughts and growth as another seed in your mind. Now every time you think a negative thought or repeat your insecurity to yourself in your mind, visualize a giant watering can watering the negative seed, and vizualise it growing and taking over your mind.
The same with your positive thoughts and growth. Everytime you think this in your mind and repeat it, picture the giant watering can watering the positive seed and picture it growing into a massive,strong and beautiful plant.
When you only focus on the positive, the positive grows and gets stronger, and the negative is deprived from growth, and eventually withers off and dies, and you are left with positive, confident self-esteem.
It is probably not possible to have zero insecurities, but I’m saying that it is not neccesary to see them as insecurities that hold you back and limit you, they are triggers to call you to action and propel you forward in your journey of positive growth.
I hope this makes a difference to your day
Have a Rockin’ day