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So often I see people (myself included) making choices and doing things for the wrong reasons.

When I say the wrong reasons, I mean doing something because you feel obligated to do it and not neccessarily because you want to do it. Whether it is because you feel guilty, or because you feel other people expect it of you, or because it would make you cooler etc.

How many people choose a career or degree or take a job because someone has told them it would be right for them. And then they listen to that person and go down a path where they might only find mild happiness at best because it is not truly what their heart desires, and they are throwing their time away while in reality they are dreaming about what they would really like to be doing.

LIVING LIFE WITH NO REGRETS

That is of course easy to say, but I think it is a good way to live your life.
It means living your life in the present, and taking full responsibility for every action and choice you make even if it is a bad one.

Say you decide to quit your job as accountant to go fully for your dream of becoming an actor.
On the one hand as an accountant you are safe, you are assured a good income and a good lifestyle, but its dull and you feel you are living in the shadows of what you could become. But then you quit to follow your hearts true desire, but it turns out you struggle for 5 years, making way less than you accountants salary.

Now, before you made the choice to quit your job as an accountant, you should know that it could turn out bad, but you are okay with that. If you are not okay with it, you will regret it and become miserable.

Since it is your true desire, and you really believe you will become a great actor and make it big, time and problems will not stand in your way, and you will keep going at it until you succeed.

Of course that is just an example, but the principles apply to all situations.
Say you are out at a party and see a gorgeous girl surrounded by 20 guys all begging for her attention, and you know the second you saw her you wanted her to be yours, you have to go and talk to her. Even if you get laughed at or made fun of or humiliated, even if some guy starts a fight with you.

Whatever it is that you truly want, if you do not go for it you are lying to yourself.

When it comes to buying a car, do you choose the out of your budget sportscar because it will make you look cooler, or do you go for the practical thing and go for an economic car that will get you from a-b?

When it comes to a choice of two girls, one insanely beautiful with the hottest body and prettiest face you have ever seen but the personality of a library book or a girl who is faily attractive but not close to the other one, but you have an amazing connection with her?

I can give more examples like this, and so often we go for the superficial, the thing that society has conditioned us into thinking will be better because it is more beautiful, or more expensive or will make us a better person, and so often after we made that choice, we find out it is not half as good as we thought it would be, and we actually start to wish that we made the other choice.

Have you experienced this?

I have, many times, and I made it a goal to be true to myself, to do what my heart tells me to do and to follow what I really want instead of making choices based upon other peoples expectations or perceptions.

So everytime you have to make a choice and decide on something rather important, ask yourself”

“By doing this, will it make me truly happy? Who am I doing this for, myself or someone else?”

And if you answer honestly, most of the time you will make choices that make you truly happy and let you follow your hearts desires.