Did you wake up this morning with a smile on your face?
Just because you were truly excited that you are fortunate to experience another day of life?
Most people don’t, and its just another Wednesday, in another week, in another month, where every day is the same. There are so many people in the world who are not happy, who are frowning, or angry or depressed. A smile is contagious, haven’t you ever had a total stranger look at you and smile, and that totally made your day? How much effort did it cost the stranger to smile?
Being happy is so much more fun and actually takes less effort once you get into the habit of it.
Its the being sad, or angry, or depressed on unhappy that takes effort to maintain.
Do you know that happiness is just a state of being?
And did you know that happiness is totally dependent on your thoughts, and on nothing else.
Happiness is not the car you drive, not how much money you have, not how many girls you are dating or the job you have. Happiness is totally independent from all those things.
You can have totally nothing and live off minimum wage and still be incredibly happy.
In his book, The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle describes how for two years he gave up everything he owned and pretty much lived on a park bench for that time, and he says those two years were the happiest, most troublefree times of his life.
Now I’m not saying you have to live on a park bench to be happy, but what I’m saying is don’t be unhappy due to external events. Once you realise that happiness is dependent on you, and not others, you will see that external things do not have such a hold over you anymore. You will have so much happiness, that you are able to give it to others, and share it with them, and you will notice good things start to happen. People are attracted to other people who are happy and in a good state.
What I mean by external events is placing your happiness outside of yourself.
Meaning you are placing your happiness in the hands of the unknown. Only being happy when you have a girlfriend, or only being happy if you make a lot of money on that day, or if you win the sports game, or if you don’t have a lot of work that day. But then what happens when your girlfriend breaks up with you, and you lose money, and you lose the game, and you have a pile of work. Then you become unhappy and your moods swing dependent on the day and the external events it brings.
A glass is half-empty of half-full, and you can see everything in life that way. There are two sides to everything, and in every good there is bad, and in every bad there is good. Yin and Yang, one cannot be present without the other. It is totally up to you whether you want to see the bad in things, or the good in things.
So instead of waking up tomorow morning and thinking “oh another day, I don’t feel like all the work” or something along those lines, just smile. Be happy. Be aware that your problems probably are minor compared to many people in this world, and be happy that you are breathing and allowed to experience another day in this beautiful world.
I guess acceptance plays a big part in being happy.
As a small fish there is no sense to fight the current and try and swim upstream.So many of us do that, we are unhappy with our situations, and mentally keep wishing things were different, but unless you take action, things will not change (except rare occasions).
“Gives us the serenity to accept what we cannot change, and the courage to change what we cannot accept”
I like this saying a lot, because it gives a sense of peace and purpose to life. Things that you cannot change will be things like your face or skin color, or who your parents are , or even your past. There is no sense in spending energy and effort wishing those things could change, because they will not. Accept it and you can be happy about it. Things we cannot accept but can change are things like your career, your bank balance or lifestyle, the friends that you have and the girls you want to date, the languages you want to speak or the countries we want to see. Are you not satisfied with your results in one of these areas? Then you can start your journey towards the goal you want to achieve. This is taking action so that you do not accept what you are not satisfied with, so that you can get to the point where you reach satisfaction. Notice that I use the word satisfaction instead of happiness, because even though you may not have acieved your goals yet, you can still be happy, and your can be really happy in working towards them, no matter how long that will take or how hard the struggle will be.
Take responsibility of your own happiness.
Don’t place your happiness in the hands of the unknown…YOU and YOU alone are in charge for your happiness, and I promise you, once you realise this, life becomes a lot more pleasant:)
Have a Rockin’ day