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The Art of Problem Solving (Solve ANY Problem in 20 Minutes With This Method)

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Relationship drama, a mid-life crisis, quitting your job, financial stress, health problems or even just unhappiness. Are you experiencing any of these or something similar?

I want to give you my favorite solution for solving any problem you have in just 20 minutes. (To be fair, for serious problems it may take you 40 minutes or an hour.) The answer is…

Art of Problem Solving

Writing Will Solve Your Problems

You may not believe me, but writing all the thoughts in your head down on paper (old fashioned style with a pen or pencil) will clear your head and give you the opportunity for a fresh perspective.

You can flush all the bad emotions and stress out of your system. You can write all the pros and cons of your dilemma and you can give yourself all the possible action steps you could take to overcome your problem.

Another reason why writing will help you solve your problems is because it allows you to distance yourself from your problems. Often you get so caught up in the situation that you can’t “see the forest through the trees” anymore. Your judgement is clouded by emotions and by the direct involvement in your situation.

The art of problem solving is through writing, you’re able to separate yourself from your problems, and view them as an observer. This allows you to make logical and less emotional decisions how to solve them.

The Art of Problem Solving – Here’s How

The method I’m about to describe to you I call “the art of problem solving”. It’s simple and it will help you solve your problem in 20-60 minutes.

You need a couple of sheets of paper (I prefer an A4 notepad) and a pen.
Find a room or place where you will not be distracted. Turn off your phone, the TV and your computer.

Step 1:
Start writing the first things that come to mind. Write down exactly how you are feeling and what you are thinking without thinking about it.

You may think that you need to start writing logical solutions for your problem, but you first need to clear your head and spill your heart out. Flush those bad emotions out, confide in the paper…it won’t judge you.

It may take you 1 page and it may take you 10 pages of writing before you feel some sort of a total relief from the emotions that have been holding you in a tight grip for so long. Only once you feel like you don’t want to write anymore (and you feel better about yourself) should you move on to step 2.

A while ago I had a situation that was bothering me, and I wrote 3 pages for this step. I wrote things like, “Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh”, “Why is this happening”, “This sucks, sucks sucks”. It might sound a little crazy to you, but that is exactly the point. You want to let it out, not keep the emotions in. Scream, vent and go crazy (on paper).

Trust me, it works.

Step 2:

This is the “logical” part that requires some unbiased, clear thinking (that’s why you needed to vent and clear your head in step 1).

On a blank page, write down exactly what your problem is. If your partner cheated on you, write that. If you lost your job and have no income, write that. If your friend stole from you, write that. Just write down exactly what your problem is so that you can focus on the root of it, and not on all the consequences that stem from it.

After writing down your problem, you need to write down every single solution for your problem that you can think of, no matter how crazy or expensive it may seem. Write them down, one under another.

A reason why you need to write down all the solutions to your problems is because of the fact that often you know what you need to do in order to make your problems go away, but the solution that you know is the right one may not always be the easiest one. If you write down all possible solutions to your problems, you may just see that the solution you dread but know is best, is actually the best out of all the options you wrote down.

Step 3:

Step 3 is for you to take everything you’ve written down and put it away for at least 24 hours.

What you’ve just spent the last 20-60 minutes writing down is exactly how you felt, your problem and all the possible solutions to your problem that you could think of. But you may have missed something, and you may have written things down in anger or in your emotional state that are not the smartest decision you could make.

That’s exactly why you need to let the dust settle and take a break before you make a final decision. Put your papers away for at least a full day (if you have a few days it’s even better) and don’t think about it for that time.

After a day (or few days), you should read over everything you’ve written down. This time you should feel less attachment to your emotions and the words you’ve written, almost like you’re an observer reading someone else’s words.

Once you’ve read through the possible solutions you wrote down, it should be clear which is the best one that will solve your problem.

Parting Advice: The Art of Problem Solving

I know that I don’t know what you’re going through right now, or what obstacles you’re facing in your life.

I’ve personally been through some very tough times in my life where I had decisions to make that changed everything. I’ve learned that there will always be times when “shit hits the fan”, but I also believe that these times are necessary to test you as a person.

There is no guarantee that things will get better immediately, but the best advice I can give you is to always make decisions that you know deep down in your heart are the right ones. If you make any decisions against your heart or your conscience, you’re likely going to end up regretting those decisions in the future, but if you follow your heart then you just did the best you could do.

I wish you good luck, and if you ever need anyone to talk to, I’m here.

P.S. I highly recommend my Upgrade Reality eBook to show you how to overcome all your personal obstacles.

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  • http://jakyastikblogs.blogspot.com Jaky Astik

    The art of problem solving. What a generous advice that is!! Thanks for the wonderful post. While on the other hand I use a very impractical method of problem solving. I have some of my favourite self help books always around me. Whenever I have a problem, I note it down precisely and believe that some answer will pop out of the books. Then I take up a random book, a random page and just read it out.

    Answers appear out of nowhere! Try it and tell me what you think.

  • diggy

    Hi Jaky,

    You’re welcome, I’m happy to hear you enjoyed this advice!
    I Have never tried your method but I can imagine it works, your mind can find words or phrases that can help you solve your problem IF you know what you need to solve. I will try this next time as an experiment.

  • http://www.confidenceinyou.net Andrew Cooke

    Hey Diggy,

    You have really hit the nail on the head here with this post. Something similar hit me a while back when someone close to me was dealing with severe depression and said that certain medication was allowing her to contain depressive outbursts however she felt it was all bottling up inside instead. She then bought a note pad and used it purely for writing down the feelings she had inside, even it they were just random outbursts like ‘AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH’

    She found just releasing the feelings onto paper help her keep on top of everything. It’s the reason people are making professions out of ‘listening’ to problems.

    Something also that can be great is ‘NLP’ which is worth investigating, and I will be posting on the subject this weekend.

    Thanks for the insight
    Andrew

  • http://www.theemotionmachine.com Steven

    Hey Diggy, I was worried when I saw “solve any problem in 20 minutes” that you might’ve forgotten the power of our unconscious minds. Luckily, you do include letting the problem sit for 24 hours. That to me is key. So often we try to think harder and harder about our problems (and it’s good to actively analyze them), but we forget that sometimes we need to WALK AWAY from the problem for a little bit until the best answer presents itself.

    Thanks for sharing this method. It resonates well with other things I’ve read on problem-solving.

  • diggy

    Hi Andrew,

    Letting emotions build up inside you is never a good idea. It will lead to severe stress or even nervous breakdowns later.

    Everyone should find a way to release emotions and frustrations on a regular basis, whether it be through physical activity (gym, running etc.) or meditation or even writing as I mentioned in this article.

    NLP is really cool and the basics are not that hard to master. I really recommend a method called EFT (http://www.eftuniverse.com) which works wonders to overcome any negative emotion, doubt or frustration.

    Thanks as always for you support and for saying hi:)

  • diggy

    Hey Steven,
    Yeah instant decisions are not always the best because they’re clouded by emotions, even though you are capable of producing the best answer right away.

    I read of a study where they instructed the participants to sit down for 30 minutes in a room with no distractions with paper and a pen, and then to write down every possible word they could think of starting with the letter “C”. After the 30 minutes the exercise was over and they could continue their normal daily routines.

    The interesting thing is that for up to 2 DAYS after the exercise, all participants reported back saying that their minds kept suggesting more and more words starting with the letter “C”. This shows indeed how powerful the subconscious mind is as you say.

    Thanks for stopping by!

  • http://www.mynotetakingnerd.com Lewis LaLanne aka Nerd #2

    I love the part where you force yourself to write down all of the solutions to your problem.

    Most of the time, depression or feelings of hopelessness set in when we feel like we’re trapped and that we have limited choices. When you use the first step and actually get yourself to a place where your mind is calm because you’ve fully vented, this second step can be awesomely powerful.

    This step reinforces in your mind the fact that you do have options, this isn’t the end of the world, there are ways for you to solve your problem.

    I believe the people who win are more resourceful than most people allow themselves to be and that’s why they enjoy the success they do! I thank you Diggy for contributing to myself and all your other raving fans here expanding who they are and what’s possible for them with the insights you share here.

  • diggy

    Hey Lewis,
    How are you doing man? Hope life is good!

    Thanks for the fantastic comment as usual:)

  • http://germanefficiency.com Lucas

    Thanks Diggy, this sounds interesting. I’m going to try it out and will report back with the results!

  • diggy

    Thanks Lucas, looking forward to seeing some feedback :)

  • http://www.creativeseedling.com Maryna{CreativeSeedling}

    Thank you Diggy for a clear and insightful article. I have used the same steps before, but you have outlined them just too perfect, so I had to re-blog.

    Regards :)
    Maryna.

  • diggy

    Hi Maryna,
    You’re welcome, happy to hear that you enjoyed the article:)
    This is a method I’ve personally used many times when I’ve faced serious dilemma’s, and it’s helped me every time!

    Thanks for stopping by,
    have an awesome day!

  • http://germanefficiency.com Lucas

    Hi Diggy, I’ve done this exercise now and came back here to report the results.

    In a nutshell: I’m blown away by how well this worked!

    I’ve recently been experiencing increasing tendencies of procrastination and laziness without really being able to pinpoint where it was coming from.

    So I did the excercise you recommended to solve this problem.

    And it was just amazing! Even the first step of the process, just writing down my problems and feelings, was already helpful. While doing that, I realised for the first time consciously that I HAD certain problems.

    The switch to the solution listing step then happened almost automatically. I did encounter some mental resistance initially but having just clearly defined the problems, the first solutions came to my mind naturally.

    After a while, it seemed like I really got into a problem solving mindset and I couldn’t even write fast enough to keep up with all the solutions that came to my mind. This even continued after I had finished the exercise – the ideas just didn’t stop coming.

    The key really was to realise that there had been some massive changes in my worklife that I hadn’t properly adapted to. (I won’t go into more detail in this comment to avoid it taking up several pages).

    Also, I realised I hadn’t taken a proper vacation for quite a long time, and I’m just feeling a bit exhausted overall. So this sunday, my girlfriend and I will fly to the Chinese island paradise Hainan to spend a few nice days.

    Diggy, thanks, and I’ll think of you while I’m jetskiing in the south chinese sea (isn’t that on your list of 100 things to do before you die too?) ;-)

    Lucas

  • diggy

    Hey Lucas,
    Awesome buddy, I’m very happy to hear that!

    Thank you so much for reporting back, your experience and confirmation of the method will be of great help to convince anyone who’s still skeptical.

    It can be difficult to “see the forest through the trees”, i.e. to clearly see everything that’s going on in your head. Once you lay it all out on paper, it can be amazing how you suddenly see it differently.

    I’m super jealous of your vacation! Enjoy it to the max!
    It’s not on the list but definitely something I wanna do!

    Diggy

    P.S. One thing on my list is to bungee jump and I’m planning to go do the biggest bungee jump in the world this weekend. If you don’t see any more updates then you know something went wrong ;)

  • http://germanefficiency.com Lucas

    Haha fantastic, have fun with that jump! It’s that jump off a bridge, isn’t it? A friend of mine has jumped off that one a couple of years ago.

    I have a lot of respect for you – Personally, it already took all of my courage to bungee from a 50 meters crane in the harbour of Hamburg. I can’t even imagine what it must be like to look down that giant bridge!

    Looking forward to hearing your report :)

  • 1234

    uhhh dosen’t work to prove golbach’s conjecture or any of millinnium prize problems. :D

  • http://www.upgradereality.com Diggy

    Haha, yeah you could be right about that!

  • vega

    i need some help from u diggy comment back when u r there…….

  • http://www.upgradereality.com Diggy

    Hey, I’m here.
    Send me an email at diggy@upgradereality.com

    Cheers!

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